In the Know


Best Kept Secrets in the Hamptons….The Hamptons a place where some drop $500,000 on a 2 weeks rental to meet men is only 3% of what really takes place in this resort area. Many hard working people live here full-time, vacation, own 2nd homes or just visit for the day or weekend. There is much to do and tons of hidden treasures that many visitors and locals don’t know about….I am sharing with you some of my personal favorites..I most enjoy Sag Harbor and Montauk and that is because they are both so warm and inviting. They are family friendly and there is a feeling of unity when you visit these areas.
Montauk has some places that I absolutely love:

  1. Gurney’s Inn : Great buffet breakfast
  2. East by Northeast because you can see the sunset from every seat in the restaurant and it is breath-taking, not to mention the duck tacos are to die for.
  3. Shagwong Restaurant…It is small and the decor is so local but the fish is fresh and delicious…great family place

Love Pancakes……… then John’s Pancakes is the place for you….
having a party how about catering the BEST FRIED CHICKEN in the Hamptons…Herb’s Market in Montauk

Amagansett: Known for really good Lobster Roll….Lobster Roll Restaurant
Stephen Talk House for great live Music…if you are lucky you may even catch Bon Jovi there…
Amagansett Beach & Bike: Bike rentals and tours and kayat rental & tours,You can learn to Row, Kayak, Surf or Kiteboard….. tell them Hamptons Mouthpiece referred you.

East hampton:

  • Whites Pharmacy offers free make-overs and sells on top brand cosmetics, haircare, skincare and suncare…they also carry an extensive gift card collection and magazines.
  • East Hampton Jr. Lifeguard program for kids 8-16….starts end of June, check out the Town of East hampton for more information
  • Golden Pear: Seafood Stew…this dish is not served often but when it is…run and get it…It is one of the best meals I have ever tasted….DELICIOUS..locations in East Hampton, Sag Harbor, Bridgehampton and Southampton
  • East Hampton Studio: looking to have an event place that holds over 500 people….this should be on the list
  • Lucy’s Whey: really delicious cheese (located on North Main)
  • East Hampton florist:I love this florist, they are so talented
  • Pumpernickels Deli…located in East Hampton…really good Italian Heroes
  • Turtle Crossing, Friday nights (Mamalee band performs 5-7pm in the summer)
    • Cornbread is delicious and so is the BBQ


Sag Harbor:

  • Bay Burger: located on Sag Harbor turnpike….best Lobster Rolls in the Hamptons and on Thursday nights check out the Jamming
  • Palm Produce Resortwear: bathing suits are reasonable prices…located on Main Street
  • Provisions: Best grilled Chicken and tossed salad, make sure get the green salad dressing, my personal favorite is the tuna salad (its made with veganaisse)
  • Espresso: This place makes the absolute BEST sandwiches in all of the Hamptons…personal favorite (grilled chicken, mozz,mushroom on Focatio bread)
  • Cavaniola’s: located on 114….really good cheese, fresh bread and amazing sandwiches….not sure of the day but they do a wine & cheese tasting
  • Sag Harbor Rowing Club: looking for something fun for the kids to do, rowing is fun and different
  • Park Camp….Free summer camp for kids M-F 9a-12n….call Southampton Town for more information and sign-up dates
  • Want a private Lifeguard to come to your house to teach swimming: Danielle Leggard is a licensed and registered Swim Instructor….email for rates and availability…

The Hamptons is full of hidden treasures, besides the ones listed above, need a photographer for you event, Photography By Kurt is amazing, reasonably priced, personable and very, very reliable….see his work here…
Looking for a really good burger: Rowdy Hall in East Hampton, Corner Bar, Bay Burger and LT Burger in Sag Harbor, Barristers and Southampton Publick House in Southampton…How about chartering a Sailboat, Dove Charters in Sag Harbor, Great workout places, Core Dynamics in Watermill, Sag Harbor Gym in Sag Harbor, Personal Best in Bridgehampton or Evolution Fitness and my favorite “Soul Cycle in Brideghampton and East Hampton… many unique boutique clothing stores: check out Shop Renaissance in Southampton, Urban Zen in Sag Harbor, Collette Consignment in Sag harbor, or new comer b.b.balsam…

Want Pizza but you don’t want to drive to get it…American Pie in Bridgehampton Commons delivers….this is really good gem when you have guests and you have no food….631-613-6177 Now I don’t want to forget about Rumba in Hampton Bays….really good BBQ

Monday nights at Sagg Main Beach for Drum Circle…get there early because it gets crowded and parking is limited….

Do you have a budding young actor or actress…Stages a young people theater workshop is something to look into…all day camp and performances in both July and August….see all past performance pictures at

The Sag Harbor Whalers will be hosting free clinics at Mashashimuet Park on the following dates: June 19th and 26th, as well as July 3rd, 10th, and 17th. This will be a great opportunity for the young kids of the community to interact with the players and learn the fundamentals of the game from collegiate baseball players. Spread the word!

I will try my best to inform you about the hidden treasures in the Hamptons in future blogs, I would like to do a hidden treasures in the Northfork so please send me information if you want to be included.
till next time….need an introduction, a foot in the door, information ask Hamptons Mouthpiece….

PULL OVER ….License and Registration
THE MOST FEARED WORDS IN THE HAMPTONS…Well everyone knows that the nuisances of the Hamptons are the traffic on 27 and the parking on Main Street in the Villages…This year is no better and it is a real bummer to get a ticket…or having to show up in court for a speeding ticket….Lets face it friends it has been a long winter and the towns look forward to making some income during the summer.

Here are a couple of tips for visitors and summer people.

  1. Pay attention to the speed limits, you will get pulled over…NO LIE!
  2. Pay attention to parking signs you will get a ticket, the traffic police is out in full force.
  3. Make sure your registration and inspection are in order, if your registration is not and you get pulled over, you will be arrested and your car will be towed!
  4. Parking in the town of East Hampton on Main street is 1 hour, pay attention to your time…Southampton town is 2 hours
  5. Just because you may see cars parked does not make it legal, pay attention to Parking signs…I believe in the town of Southampton they will tow your car away.

I find it very interesting that the time that you can park in East Hampton has been reduced from 2 hours to 1 hour, so here are some tips for you my friends….Main Street parking is 1 hour, in the back parking lot that is a 2 hour time slot…near the YMCA is a 24 hour time slot and if you need to leave your car overnight, you must get a permit from the town…

The village strictly controls parking in village parking lots and on village streets. It has no jurisdiction over private parking lots owned by commercial businesses. Violation of village parking regulations can result in vehicle immobilization or towing and a mandatory fine of $60. Village regulated parking lots include:
• Reutershan Parking Lot. Located between Herrick Park and the stores on Main Street. Two-hour maximum from 8 am to 6 pm from April 1st until December 31st. You are required to take a free ticket at the entrance to the lot and display it on the driver’s side of your dashboard. Failure to display the entrance ticket may result in a mandatory fine of $60.

I have added some additional links to some of the towns for more information on those towns…

If you need anymore information don’t hesitate to reach out and ask the Hamptons Mouthpiece…also join my facebook page

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Hamptons: You have been accepted to College now What? It has been awhile since I last posted a blog and that is because I have been spreading myself so thin that most days I barely have time to eat lunch or relax. I have dedicated the last year of my life to helping my daughter with her college process and it has been rewarding, stressful, exhausting and nerve wrenching.DSC_3335

I am pleased to say that she applied to 9 colleges to continue her study of Art with an emphasis on Graphic Design and she has been admitted to all 9 of those schools. Our delima falls in the category that most students and parents face in this tough economic time and that is the cost of most of these private institutions. Nothing is more upsetting than seeing your child apply to their 1st choice, being accepted then having to tell your child that this school is too expensive and they cannot go because you cannot afford to pay the tuition. Being middle class is both a blessing and a curse, a blessing because you can provide for your family but a curse because you fall victim to no help at all. The poor will get financial support from both the government and the institutions and the rich do not need the help, but the middle class is just struggling to pay our bills, put food on the table and keep a roof over our heads, we ask for no hand-outs and for that we are often attacked and our kids suffer. Yes your child could make the decision to still go and financially put themselves in a financial crunch all to enjoy the cafeteria food or better dorms, but you the adult know the consequences of this bad decision, when do you step in and talk common sense to your 18 year old? My daughter’s 1st choice tuition is $59,800 per year, how disgusting is that, are you f….. kidding me? For this tuition the application process should not be as difficult as they made it because who the hell can afford this tuition. We do not feel bad in telling our daughter that we cannot afford this tuition because I do not think 95% of American’s could afford this tuition. Statistics show that many adults age 29-30 are moving back home because they have lost their jobs or they have jobs where they cannot not afford to live on their own and pay off their college loans. This is a different time and parents one way or another you are going to be paying the price if you do not step up and talk some common sense into your very naive 17-19 year olds…….I am attaching the 2011 Princeton reviews for your info.

2011 College Hopes & Worries Survey Report
The Princeton Review, one of the nation’s best known education services companies, has conducted this survey of high school students applying to colleges and parents of college applicants since the 2002-03 school year.  Respondents who complete the survey are readers of the company’s annual “Best Colleges” book and users of its site,
The 2011 survey appeared in The Princeton Review book, Best 373 Colleges: 2011 Edition  (Random House, August 2010) in a paper version readers mailed or faxed to the company.  It also ran on where users completed the survey online from late January to early March 2011.
Findings for the 2010-11 survey are based on responses from 12,185 people: 8,219 (67%) high school students applying to colleges and 3,966 (33%) parents of college applicants.  Respondents came from all 50 states, DC, the Virgin Islands, Guam, Puerto Rico and several countries abroad.
The company awards a $1,000 college scholarship to one survey participant chosen at random, and it sends 25 participants also chosen at random one of the following Princeton Review books (their choice): ACT or SAT?: Choosing the Right Exam For You, Paying for College Without Going Broke, or The Portable Guidance Counselor.
Press Contact:
Jeanne Krier, Publicist, The Princeton Review Books, Rankings & Surveys, 212-539-1350
2011 Survey Questions / Findings
In this report, the percent of respondents overall (students plus parents) choosing an answer is shown to the left of each answer choice.  The percent of students and the percent of parents choosing that answer is shown to the right and in parentheses.
The pluralities (answer choices selected by the highest percent of respondents) or the majorities (answer choices selected by 50 percent or more of respondents) are underlined.
The first question, “What would be your “dream” college?…” was fill-in-the-blank.  The remaining questions were all multiple-choice.  Some questions have been asked annually or in past years, and if so, results for prior years are indicated below.
1) What would be your “dream” college?  What college would you most like to attend (or see your child attend) if chance of being accepted or cost were not an issue?” 
In their answers to this fill-in-the-blank question, respondents wrote in the names of more than 585colleges, universities and other post-secondary institutions as their “dream colleges” (with some schools being named by only one respondent and others being named by more than 500 respondents as their “dream college”).
The 10 colleges students most named as their “dream college” were:
1/ Stanford Univ., 2/ Harvard College, 3/ New York Univ.,
4/ Princeton Univ., 5/ Massachusetts Institute of Technology 6/ Yale Univ.,
7/ Univ. of California–Los Angeles, 8/ Univ. of Pennsylvania,
9/ Univ. of Southern California, 10/ Univ. of California-Berkeley
The 10 colleges parents most named as their “dream college” for their child were:
1/ Harvard College, 2/ Stanford Univ., 3/ Princeton Univ., 4/ Massachusetts Institute of Technology, 5/ Yale Univ., 6/ Duke Univ., 7/ Brown Univ., 8/ New York Univ., 9/ Univ. of Notre Dame, 10 / Northwestern Univ.
2) How many colleges will you (your child) apply to?
Almost half (45%) of respondents said they/their child will apply to 5 to 8 colleges while 22% said they/their child will apply to 9 or more colleges.
33%  One to 4 (33% Students, 31% Parents)
45%  Five to 8  (44% Students, 49% Parents)
18%  Nine to 12 (18% Students, 17% Parents)
04%  Thirteen or more (05% Students, 03% Parents)
            Combined: 22% applying to 9 or more.
3) What has been, or do you think will be the toughest part of your (your child’s) college application experience?
The plurality of students (29%) chose the answer “taking admission and placement tests” as the toughest part of their application experience, while the plurality of parents (31%) chose the answer, “completing applications for admission and financial aid.”
21% Researching colleges and deciding which schools to apply to (20% Students, 24% Parents)
28% Taking admission and placement tests – the SAT, ACT, or APs  (29% Students,25% Parents)
27% Completing applications for admission and financial aid  (26% Students 31% Parents)
24% Waiting for the decision letters and choosing which college to attend (25% Students, 20% Parents)
4) What do you estimate your (or your child’s) college degree will cost, including four years of tuition, room & board, fees, books and other expenses?
Parents’ estimates of college costs were significantly higher than students.
82% of parents estimated their college costs will be more than $75,000 while 66% of students had this estimate.
45%  More than $100,000 (41% Students, 57% Parents)
25%  $75,000 to $100,000 (25% Students, 25% Parents)
Combined: 70% said More than $75,000 (down 1% from last year)
15%  $50,000 to 75,000 (17% Students, 11% Parents)
11%  $25,000 to $50,000 (13% Students, 05% Parents)
04%  Up to $25,000 (04% Students, 02% Parents)
            Combined: 15% said Less than $50,000
5) How necessary will financial aid (education loans, scholarships or grants) be to pay for your (your child’s) college education?
Among respondents overall, 86% said financial aid would be “Extremely” or “Very” necessary with 61% of them saying “Extremely.”    More students (88%) than parents (82%) viewed aid as “Extremely” or “Very” necessary.  In 2007, the first year this question was asked on the survey, 78% of respondents overall said aid would be “Extremely,” or Very” necessary, with 51% saying “Extremely.”
61%  Extremely (62% Students, 60% Parents)
25%  Very (26% Students, 22% Parents)
86% said Extremely or Very necessary (same as last year)
12%  Somewhat (11% Students, 14% Parents)
02%  Not at all (01% Students, 04% Parents)
6) What’s your biggest concern about applying to or attending college?
The plurality (37%) of students and parents overall was most concerned that they/their child “will get into their first choice college but won’t have sufficient funds/aid to attend it.” This has been the plurality of respondents’ biggest concern consistently since 2006.  In 2006, the plurality (34%) of respondents were most concerned that they/their child “won’t get into first-choice college.”
25%  Won’t get into first-choice college (27% Students, 22% Parents)
37%  Will get into first-choice college, but won’t have sufficient funds/financial aid to attend
          (36% Students, 37% Parents)
27%  Will get into a college I (my child) want(s) to attend, but will take on major loan debt to
afford it (26% Students, 30% Parents)
11%  Will attend a college I (my child) may not be happy about (11% Students, 11% Parents)
7) How would you gauge your stress level about the college application process?
Students reported higher stress than parents.  Among respondents overall (students and parents combined), 69% reported “Very High” or “High” levels of stress.  That’s up 1% from last year and up 13% from 2003 when The Princeton Review first conducted this survey.
25% Very High (26% Students, 22% Parents)
44%  High  (45% Students, 42% Parents)
            Combined 69% Very High or High  (up 13% from 2003, first year of survey)
28% Average (26% Students, 33% Parents)
03% Low  (03% Students, 03% Parents)
00% Very Low (0% Students, 0% Parents)
8) Ideally, how far from home would you like the college you (your child) attend(s) to be?
Half (50%) of parents would ideally like their child to attend a college less than 250 miles from home.   However, the majority (66%) of students would ideally like to attend a college more than 250 from home with 37% of them wishing it would be 500+ miles and 17% wishing it would be 1,000+ miles from home.
39%  0 to 250 miles (34% Students, 50% Parents)
30%  250 to 500 miles (29% Students, 30% Parents)
17%  500 to 1,000 miles (20% Students, 11% Parents)
14%  1,000 miles or more (17% Students, 09% Parents)
9) When it comes to choosing which college you (or your child) will attend, which of the following do you think it is most likely to be?
While the plurality (49%) of respondents overall said they/their child would likely attend the college that will be the “best overall fit,” only about 1 of 10 respondents, since the survey began, indicated they’d choose the college “with the best academic reputation.”
10%  College with best academic reputation (11% Students, 08% Parents)
06%  College that will be the most affordable (06% Students, 06% Parents)
35%  College with best program for my (my child’s) career interests (37% Students, 32%
49%  College that will be the best overall fit (46% Students, 54% Parents)
10) If you (your child) had a way to compare colleges based on their commitment to environmental issues (from academic offerings to practices concerning energy use, recycling, etc.), how much would this contribute to your (your child’s) decision to apply to or attend a school?
A majority (65%) of respondents overall said having such information would contribute “Strongly,” “Very Much,” or “Somewhat” to their decisions (up 1% from last year), while 35% of them indicated said it would contribute “Not Much” or “Not at all.”    Students placed higher value on this information than parents did.
07% Strongly (08% Students, 05% Parents)
17% Very Much (20% Students, 12% Parents)
41% Somewhat (41% Students, 40 % Parents)
            Combined 65% Somewhat, Very Much or Strongly (up 1% from last year)
25% Not Much (23 % Students, 30% Parents)
10% Not at All (08% Students, 13% Parents)
            Combined 35 % Not Much or Not at All
11) Has the state of the economy this year affected your (your child’s) decisions about applying to or attending college?
Among respondents overall (students and parents combined), 72% say the economy has affected their decisions about college.  That’s up 4% from last year.  Almost 3 out 4 students (74%) as compared to almost 2 out of 3 parents (65%) said the economy has affected their college decisions.
14%  Yes: Extremely  (14% Students, 12% Parents)
23%  Yes: Very Much  (24% Students, 21% Parents)
35%  Yes: Somewhat  (36% Students, 32% Parents)
         Combined 72% Yes (up 4% from last year)
28%   No: Not at all.  (26% Students, 35% Parents)
12) If your answer to the previous question was one of the “Yes” choices, how would you describe the major way the economy has affected your (your child’s) college application decisions?
The majority (52%) of respondents overall said they are applying to more “‘financial aid safety’ schools” (a 18% increase over the 34% of respondents that selected this answer in 2009 of the same three answer choices).
23%  Am applying to colleges with “lower sticker prices” (21% Students, 29% Parents)
52%  Am applying to more “financial aid safety” schools  (54% Students, 48% Parents)
25%  Am applying to colleges closer to home to save on travel  (25% Students, 23% Parents)
13) What will be the biggest benefit of your (your child) attending college and earning a college diploma?
Among respondents overall (students and parents combined), 61% see the main benefit of a college degree as a potentially better job / higher income and career training rather than the education per se.  That’s up 6% from last year.
26%  The education (26% Students, 26% Parents)
13%  The exposure to new ideas (13% Students, 12% Parents)
            Combined 39% chose answers related to education and learning
42%  The potentially better job and higher income (42% students, 42% Parents)
19%  The training for a specific career (19% Students, 20% Parents)
            Combined 61% chose answers related to job, income and career.
14) For our school profiles, we collect a lot of data directly from the colleges on everything from their admission/acceptance stats to their financial aid and graduation rates.   Of the following data points, which would you be most interested in knowing about a college you (your child) may be researching?
Among both student and parent respondents, the plurality (38%) are most interested in the average SAT score ranges of a college’s admitted freshmen.
38% Average SAT score ranges of its admitted freshmen last year (38% Students, 38% Parents)
24% Percent of applicants the college accepted last year (27% Students, 16% Parents)
21% Percent of undergraduates receiving financial aid (21% Students, 22% Parents)
17% College’s graduation rate (percent of students graduating in years) (14% Students, 24% Parents)
15) (optional) What advice would you give to college applicants or parents of applicants going through this experience next year?
“Start early” has been the advice most given by students and parents every year.  About 50% of respondents say this.   See sampler of students’ and of parents’ advice on the “College Hopes & Worries” area of Princeton Review site.

Is the college process like planning a wedding? ABSOLUTELY! The groom is your student and the parents (more like the mom) is the Bride. For most weddings the bride typically takes one year to plan the perfect wedding, well it takes 1 year to plan the college process.
You are your child’s Mouthpiece when it comes to the college process and they need you, this is a family process and they cannot not do it  alone. I remember looking at the election day results and being worried about my daughter when I heard things from Rand Paul (r,KY) who would like to abolish the Department of Education so kids don’t have to learn about “two mommies”. This type of homophobia should not be tolerated and this speaks to his character.I am concerned with funding and will kids from middle class families have an opportunity to get an education without graduating with hefty debt. Will our kids be able to afford the American Dream? I was speaking with a friend this week and she indicated that she took out student loans and her child will do the same. The difference between that time and today are so many factors, the tuition was lower, the interest on the loan was lower, there were more jobs for college kids who graduated with a BA and cost of living was lower. Today our kids are faced with so many challenges and I am scared for them, 80% of college graduates last year moved back home because they did not have a job, cost of living was too expensive and many students have overwhelming debt. This debt will be with them for years, they are excited to start their life but reality has hit them and the realization of their debt has hit them like a stack of bricks. So what is the alternative? Well I am doing some things that are different with my daughter, I am not sure how successful we will be, but I feel confident that if my daughter listens to me she will not have a tremendous amount of debt and we will not need to alter our lifestyle alot to pay for college. The fact is no one cares where you received your BA, in our competitive country a Masters is imperative in many fields, so why go a school where the tuition is $50,000 per year if you do not have these funds to spend? That being said as a family you need to have a plan from the very beginning and communication is imperative to this process.
I have decided to share our experiences with you in different steps, too much information in 1 blog could be very overwhelming….

Step 1:

  1. Get a box for all of the college information your child will receive, you take control of that information.  If you just hand that information to your child they will open only some and the rest will never see the light of day.
  2. Go through the information together, implement a weekly Family meeting and last approximately 1 hour, any longer and it will become ineffective. During this family meeting, you should start to discuss your child’s interest, do they want to go to college, what are their interests, grades, etc….. I would suggest that you make an agenda and everyone understands what will be discussed. I will elaborate in Step 2:The Family meeting and how you can make this work for your student. Our Family meetings have proven to be very successful for my family with our daughter’s college process.
  3. Have your child use your email when filling out profiles. This will keep you in the loop and you can weed out the information. Your student will become very frustrated with the massive emails that they will receive and sooner or later will stop looking at those emails. If you the parent get the initial emails, you will be able to weed through these emails and forward the ones to your child that you know will be of interest to them. Please keep in mind that sometimes they do not know what they want, I researched the college and if they offered the program that my daughter was seeking I requested information from that institution. Once the information was sent to us we reviewed it together and often times visited that school to see if it was a good fit. Of the 9 schools that Danielle applied to, only 5 of the schools were her choice the other 4 were suggestions that I made.
  4. Develop a relationship with the guidance counselor, this is really something that is imperative, remember it is the guidance counselor that writes a letter of recommendation for your child, you want to make sure that this person knows your child.
  5. Start building your child’s resume, believe me if you do not start in 9th grade you will forget things and this will cause your child to miss out on potential scholarship funding.

Till next time, turn to Hamptons MouthPiece, we will do the talking for you….Please feel free to send me subject ideas for me to talk about.

au revoir!