Originally Published in 2012…PARENT PARANOIA (The Rules)
As your child leaves for college here are the rules to share with them. It is slanted more towards girls because it was written with our daughter in mind…
1. Always carry your own money. If you can’t afford to go, stay home.
2. Take more money than you think you need, there will ALWAYS be emergencies, be prepared!
3. Never trust your friends more than your own instincts. If it doesn’t feel right, it is NOT right.
4. Never be afraid to LEAD!
5. Never let someone bring a drink to you without you seeing the bartender pour the drink. If you didn’t see it, assume the drink has been tainted. Take your drink to the bathroom with you. DANGER Will Robinson, 20,000 VOLTS!
6. If you leave your drink, NEVER return to drink it. Buy a new one.
7. You can accept a drink if someone offers to pay, BUT the purchase of a drink does not BUY your companionship FOREVER. Never feel compelled to stay in the company of a stranger or a friend because they brought you a drink!
8. Offer to pay the bill and then PAY IT.
9. Anyone who seeks to control your movement, choice of friends, contact with family or freedom of speech is NO GOOD for you and MUST be avoided.
10.You don’t have to wear LESS to be noticed. We tend to be more attracted to mystery, so cover it up!
11.Sex is NOT a bargaining tool.
12.Listen to your inner voice, it is your intuition and it will help guide you. TRUST yourself.
13.Admit when you are wrong then move on.
14.Speak up, tell YOUR truth and be prepared for people to NOT believe you. It’s OK. People lie. Truth is truth and facts are facts but sometimes they are not the same, know the difference.
15.Pay Your Own Bills. Pay your bills On Time. Never borrow money (except from Mom or Dad reluctantly). Money IS the root of all evil but boy can it be useful!
16.Always believe in the goodness of man but be prepared to deal with the Creeps, they are out there waiting to spoil your good time. Don’t let them.
17.Walk away from danger (see moths and fire!). Police sirens and flashing lights to the right, time to turn and exit stage left!
18.Life is good, enjoy it, but never at the expense of others.
19.Laugh a lot. Keep it simple. Is it really that serious? Think about the worse thing that happened to you five years ago, guess what, you’re still here. You WILL survive!
20.Have Faith and Believe in God as you perceive Him to be. He will never fail you.
Hamptons Teen: CALL ME OLD-FASHIONED, but I’m Just a DAD
I have become increasingly aware and worried about the relaxed attitude of illicit drug use among teens in the Hamptons and beyond. But what are our teenagers to think? They see a more relaxed and accepting attitude regarding the use of marijuana due to the reduction of legal penalties and the sale of marijuana for recreational use in multiple states. This is in the news and has become a part of their realities.
What our teenagers do not realize is the increased documentation about the effects of marijuana on the teenage brain. We know that the development of the brain is very fluid until or between the ages of 21-25 years old. The way in which the brain is wired is open to impact by this and other drugs. I am not a prude nor am I unaware of the opportunities, interest, curiosity and pressure to smoke weed. A lot of us did it when we were young. But this isn’t our father’s (and mother’s) weed no more. The THC (active ingredient that produces the high) content is many times more concentrated in today’s marijuana than in the weed our generation smoked. Many ‘brands’ of weed are genetically improved to the form of designer status. Consenting adults should have the option of doing whatever they want to do but it is imperative to fully inform our teenagers of the risks inherent in smoking pot.
I have the same concerns about smoking cigarettes and underage drinking that I have towards smoking weed and I feel to some extent, these are a more insidious and risky behavior that is impacting our teenagers. I cannot tell you what is the percentage of teenagers smoking and drinking but I feel it is over 50% of the population. Maybe I’m old-fashioned but if you were to ask both of my daughters (14 and 21), I still harp on the need to show restraint and to use some forward thinking concerning their future plans and how use and abuse can derail their goals. Believe me, they get tired of ‘the talk’ but I continue just the same. Am I being successful… I don’t know but I hope so. They lead their own lives, much of the time out of my view but I do what I do anyways because I must! I have no illusions, I can’t protect them all the time, nor should I or will I try. I will tell them the real deal, give them the tools to make good decisions and pray for the best.
EVERYONE has my permission to warn me if they think my child’s behavior is a risk to them and I do not care if they don’t like it. If your kids have come to my house, they may have heard some rendition of ‘the talk’ as a natural inclination of mine to be protective and proactive towards the friends of my children. My kids have probably warned them to expect it sometimes. AGAIN, I don’t care. I will not preach or teach but this is a part of the way we conduct business in our home. I will not stop!
Now don’t get me wrong, I remember being a teenager and doing LOTS OF STUFF. I will not be a hypocrite and tell them to ‘do as I say and not as I do’. But the risks of life long impacts secondary to social media and ‘selfies’ of illicit behavior that can follow them FOREVER…there are no do-overs anymore. Society can be very unforgiving. We did not have to face these risks. Remember, the definition of a teenager is filled with doing DUMB THINGS. But it is this risk taking and feelings of invincibility that makes them so powerful and dynamic. It will be hard to convince them of the dangers because they LIKE danger!
One more trend that I am seeing; the use of illegal performance enhancing drugs (PED’s). The use of Human Growth Hormone and steroids among teenage athletes has increased exponentially. Kids want to look better and perform better and they are getting access to and using these drugs more and more. The lifelong effects of these PED’s and the health impacts are so pronounced and damaging that it is imperative that parents and adults of teenage athletes inform them of the risks. Encourage your school teams to educate their athletes of the dangers and make it part of their athletic curriculum.
From me to you….JUST BEING A DAD
Hamptons: What are the contingency plans in case of a LIRR strike?
Living in the East End of Long Island is wonderful minus the transportation. Traveling to the Hamptons is often times a nightmare and expensive. So what are the MTA contingency plans for traveling from the Hamptons to NYC in case of a Strike…NOTHING!
The Hampton Jitney will be adding more buses. The company indicated that they could add 15 to 20 buses to its fleet, which runs between Manhattan and the East End of Long Island, if it became necessary.
I reached out to the Hampton Luxury Liner to inquire if they had one and I did not get a response yet. I have delayed putting this article up because I keep hoping that the MTA and Union Leaders will settle this, both sides are talking today 7/16 as a request from the Governor. Geoffrey Lynch/Hampton Jitney, the company’s chief executive, stated to the NY Times he was skeptical about the prospect of a strike. “It’s too great an opportunity for the governor of New York not to come in at the 11th hour and broker a deal,” he said. “He would look like a hero out here on the island.” Lets just hope this does happen Geoff. This could be disastrous for Long Island residents if this pending Strike happens. We need both sides to get serious and compromise. News Flash MTA, how about a contingency plan for commuters out East.
The LIRR provides 300,000 trips every weekday – a service that cannot be replicated. Everyone should expect roadways to be extremely congested and usual commute times to be significantly longer. Therefore, the MTA strongly urge you to consider the following options, although some of these options are not viable for many.
Telecommute (Work from home).
Stay with friends and family in or near the City.
Discuss using vacation or flex time options with your employer.
Carpool with other commuters.
Use existing bus services in the Hamptons: Hampton Jitney, Hampton Luxury Liner, 7bus pick-up in Ronkonkoma.
The 7Bus that is owned by Hampton Luxury Liner sent out this contingency plan in case of a LIRR Strike:
7Bus Special LIRR Strike Discount Fare -$10..The only problem with this contingency plan is you have to drive 50 miles to Ronkonkoma and the buses will not be going in NYC, they will be stopping at Rego park for commuters to take the subway into the city.
7Bus thanks you for the overwhelming response we received to our recent customer email asking for your preferences on temporary service changes should there be a LIRR strike. As you know, a LIRR strike will result in record levels of traffic congestion on the Long Island Expressway and all other roads throughout the region.To avoid the gridlock conditions and resulting hours of travel delay that the NYS DOT and NYC DOT are expecting at the Midtown Tunnel in both directions, 7Bus will heed your suggestions and avoid that location as follows:
1. NYC Destination – All westbound 7Bus trips will terminate at the Rego Park subway stop (not Woodhaven Blvd.). All eastbound 7Bus trips will originate at Rego Park. Rego Park connects to the M, R and E (E late night only) trains. We believe our customers will be better served with a faster trip to their work locations in Manhattan by taking a subway in Queens.
2. Fares and Reservations – Until LIRR service resumes, 7Bus will accept as fare payment either existing 7Bus Commuter Passes with a reservation or a special discount one-way fare of $10 which can be purchased on the website. We cannot guarantee seats for walk-ons. Reservations are highly recommended. Walk-ons will pay $10 (cash only). All regular fares above $10 will be suspended for the duration of the strike. All sales are final. You will be able to make reservations for travel that starts on Monday, July 21st. The website will accept these reservations starting on Wednesday, July 16th.
3. Schedule Adjustments – There will be an added 7Bus from Ronkonkoma at 4:30 am and 5:00AM from Melville. We are preparing a new eastbound schedule that will be available by July 16th. Most eastbound and westbound trips will include Stony Brook, Ronkonkoma, Melville and Rego Park. All buses will stop at all locations. Complete schedule and pick-up and drop-off locations can be found at www.7Bus.com.
4. Text Messaging Alerts – 7Bus maintains a text messaging system to alert customers about delays due to traffic, schedule changes, etc. New customers should set up a profile at our website www.7Bus.com . Please include your cell phone number to get these important alerts. Existing customers should double check their profile to be sure we have the correct cell phone numbers otherwise you will not be able to receive the alerts.
So my friends, if you travel into the city everyday for work, consider carpooling with a couple of train buddies and driving down to Ronkonkoma to pick up the 7bus or take the Hampton Jitney. Based on the talks today will let you know if you need to make those reservations early. Plan early, be patient and lets hope it does not come to these contingency plans. For more information:
Get updates on the situation on a special page on the MTA website http://www.thelirrtoday.com/2014/07/lirr-strike-contingency-plan.html
Hamptons is cracking down DWI this summer….The Hamptons was incredibly busy for the 4th of July weekend, and with that so were the Local police and the East End DWI task force. I am told from a reliable source that the East End Local Police from Montauk -Westhampton had several sobriety check points all over. Police officers from Suffolk and NYS troopers were recruited to help stop the madness in the Hamptons. Police were in unmarked vehicles and it is rumored that there may have been over 35 arrests this 4th of July weekend. I am told buses were brought in to transport the arrested, but I am not sure how accurate this it, I will get more definitive information and update.
DWI Task Force will be adding checkpoints this summer SO BEWARE! DON’T DRINK & DRIVE, IT IS NOT WORTH THE CONSEQUENCES….I have been told a DUI could cost you as much as $10,000 in the Hamptons….
If you are going to go out for a good time and drinking is involved make sure you have a designated driver for the evening, arrange for car service, hire a designated driver or stay where you are for the night. Police departments across Suffolk County and the East End DWI Task Force are cracking down on drunk driving and boating and will be conducting additional checkpoints aimed at cracking down on drunken and drug impaired drivers and boaters.
“Hire a Sober Driver Tonight, not a Good Criminal Defense Attorney Tomorrow,”
“In the Know” Hamptons Emergency Care Information …Greetings Mouthpiece Readers in continuing to keep you in the know, being in an unfamiliar place when traveling can be scary if a medical emergency arises . How many times have you visited an area and you or a member of your family gets ill and need to seek emergency medical attention? I suppose your first choice is to visit the emergency room if you are in the Hamptons, but my friends there are alternatives if this is not life threatening emergency. There are walk-in Medical Centers in various areas in the Hamptons.
Wainscott: Wainscott Walk In Medical Care:
Wainscott Walk-In Medical Care is a privately owned business that services patients of all ages. The practice currently includes founder, Dr. Blake Kerr, as well as Dr. Ilona Polak and Pediatrician, Dr. Michael Schessel.
Please call the office for insurance information
83 Wainscott Northwest Rd, Wainscott, NY 11975
Phone:(631) 537-1892**hours: Mon – Fri: 8:30 am – 4:00 pm, Sat: 8:30 am – 1:00 pm
East Hampton, NY: East Hampton Walk-In Medical Care
Quality Urgent Medical Care In East Hampton
470 Montauk Hwy.
East Hampton, NY 11937
Monday through Friday – 8:00 am to 5:00 pm
Saturday – 8:30 am to 5:00 pm
Sunday – 8:30 am to 3:00 pm
Friday through Monday – 9:00 am to 5:00 pm
Current Insurances: Aetna, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, Cigna, Empire Plan (NYSHIP)
Island Group Administration, Medicare, United Healthcare/Oxford
Southampton: Dr. Mark R. Kot, MD
Southampton Urgent Medical Care is a family practice that specializes in the treatment of minor injuries and also offers flu shots. The practicing physician at the office is Dr. Mark Kot. Walk-ins are welcome.
Dr. Kot accepts the following insurances: Anthem Blue Cross PPO
Empire Plan NYSHIP, Empire PPO / EPO / Indemnity Plans, Island Group Administration, MEDICARE,
TriCare (Military Service Personnel)
609 Hampton Rd, Southampton, NY 11968
Phone:(631) 204-9600 Hours: 9a-6pm (call for days)
240 Meeting House LaneSouthampton, NY 11968
Emergency Medical Services
Southampton Hospital is in partnership with the Emergency Medical Service (EMS) organizations throughout Long Island’s South Fork. These volunteer organizations perform a vital, often life-saving service to residents and visitors, providing advanced life support delivered by paramedics 24 hours a day. These trained and experienced volunteers often improve the outcome before a patient arrives at the Hospital’s Emergency Department.
*IN CASE OF EMERGENCY, PLEASE CALL 911*
Local EMS Agencies
Amagansett Fire Department – Ambulance
1300 Roanoke Avenue
East Hampton Village Ambulance
Montauk Fire Department – Ambulance
Springs Fire Department – Ambulance
Bridgehampton Fire Department – Ambulance
East Quogue Fire Department – Ambulance
Flanders-Northampton Volunteer Ambulance
Hampton Bays Volunteer Ambulance
Sag Harbor Volunteer Ambulance
Southampton Village Volunteer Ambulance
Southampton Volunteer Ambulance
Westhampton War Memorial Volunteer Ambulance
Riverhead, NY 11901
The largest hospital on Long Island’s East End, PBMC Health is a comprehensive continuum of services and providers dedicated to serving the full range of healthcare and wellness needs of the families and communities of Eastern Suffolk County and all of Long Island.