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The Power That Comes with Being a Politician

Is It More Addictive Than Doing the Right Thing?

The Power That Comes with Being a Politician; Is It More Addictive Than Doing the Right Thing?

When Power Becomes the Goal, Politics, at its best, is public service.

A politician is meant to be a protector and an advocate—someone the people trust to speak for them, fight for them, and protect their interests.

To hold office is to hold a sacred responsibility; you are in a position to make change for the good of the people; but somewhere between intention and reality, things often go off course.

So we have to ask:

Is power so intoxicating that it overrides doing what’s right?

Power vs. Purpose

Most leaders begin with a mission. They want to bring change, address injustice, and uplift their communities. But power—especially in the political arena—isn’t neutral. It flatters. It elevates. It rewards loyalty, not always integrity.

What starts as purpose can slowly shift into performance.

Power doesn’t always corrupt—sometimes it seduces. If you really want to know what drives a politician’s choices, just follow the money.

• Campaign donations

• Lobbyist pressure

• Political favors

• Hidden backroom deals

Money has the power to distort good intentions. It silences dissent and keeps the power-hungry clinging to their positions—not for the people, but for personal gain.

The Shift: When Power Feeds on Itself

There’s a moment when power stops being a tool and starts becoming the goal.

That’s when it becomes dangerous.

Does power start to feed upon itself?

Absolutely, and from there, fraud, manipulation, and corruption can take root.

Suddenly, politicians aren’t working for the people—they’re working to protect the system that protects them.

They’ll say anything. Do anything. Spin any narrative to stay in the spotlight.

Would You Do Anything to Keep It? This is the heart of the issue.

Is power so addictive that a politician would:

• Ignore the truth?

• Silence whistleblowers?

• Mislead constituents?

• Stay in office even when it’s no longer in the public’s best interest?

Too often, yes.

Even when stepping down would be the right and honorable move, too many hold on tightly. Not out of service, but out of fear of what they’ll lose.

“The longer one clings to power, the less they serve the people and the more they serve themselves.”

Doing the Right Thing Isn’t Always Rewarded

In politics, doing the right thing rarely makes headlines.

It might cost you your popularity, your party’s support—even your job.

But doing the right thing—especially when no one is watching—is the definition of real leadership.

“Legacy isn’t about how long you stay in power. It’s about how you used it.”

What is our Role: what do we reward? We, the public, are part of this equation. Are we voting for real change—or just charisma and clickbait?

If we want better leaders, we have to:

• Ask better questions

• Demand transparency

• Reward courage over comfort

When Power Is No Longer About People

A politician’s role is to serve—not rule.

To protect—not manipulate.

To uplift—not enrich themselves.

But when power becomes a shield instead of a service, democracy suffers.

So, the question remains: When does the pursuit of power become a betrayal of purpose?

And if that moment comes—will they do the right thing, or anything to stay in office?

If the answer ever stops being the people—it’s time to go.

Call to Action

Let’s demand leaders who lead with integrity—not ego.

📢 Share this if you’re ready for politics that serves people, not power.

Celebrating Women 2025: Power, Possibility, and the Bold Leaders Shaping Our Future

Jacqueline Woodson, Fran Drescher: Photo Credit: BFA/Bre Johnson, PMC/ Sean Zanni

Celebrating Women 2025: Power, Possibility, and the Bold Leaders Shaping Our Future

This year’s Celebrating Women® Breakfast, hosted by The New York Women’s Foundation at the New York Marriott Marquis, was more than a fundraiser—it was a movement. With over 1,000 advocates, partners, and changemakers in the room, the event raised over $1.2 million to power community-led grantmaking and grassroots solutions across New York City and beyond.

The theme, “Together, we create power and possibility,” resonated deeply. It captured the urgency of now—and the promise of a future led by those closest to the challenges we seek to overcome.

“People closest to the pain should be closest to the problem,” was a guiding truth echoed throughout the morning.

Leading With Empathy and Impact

Fran Drescher, the iconic actor, advocate, and founder of Cancer Schmancer, took the stage as a voice of courage and clarity. Her words were raw, real, and unforgettable:

“Be bold. Go after what you want. I’m a voice in the wilderness, speaking truth at a seminal crossroad. I call people on their untruths—and I don’t need to emulate male energy to lead. I lead with empathy.”

She reminded the audience that “how you live directly affects how you feel,” and left everyone thinking deeply about wellness, the planet, and self-worth:

“Make yourself the center of your universe. You are what you eat. Don’t hurt yourself—and don’t hurt the planet.”

Lola C. West, NYWF Board Member and Steering Committee Co-Chair, called Fran “a badass”—and the room agreed.

Celebrating Leadership That Creates Change

Honorees included:

• Jacqueline Woodson, author and founder of BALDWIN FOR THE ARTS, uplifted the role of artists and activists:

“We’re trying to make this world safer—for gender-expansive people, for women, for everyone who dares to live their truth.”

• ERA Coalition Forward was recognized for building a national, multi-generational movement to enshrine equality in the U.S. Constitution.

• New Yorkers for Equal Rights celebrated the passage of the New York Equal Rights Amendment (Proposal 1), affirming protections for all New Yorkers.

• The Young Women’s Coalition – Long Island Community showed how local leadership drives lasting change.

• JPMorganChase received the Vision Award for their investment in equity, opportunity, and inclusive economic growth.

• NYWF also spotlighted community partners like The Brooklyn Economic Justice Projectand The Informed Consent Coalition, organizations addressing the root causes of inequality with intersectional, community-based solutions.

Building a New Foundation for the Future

President and CEO Ana L. Oliveira grounded the event with powerful intention:

“The Foundation will continue in the discipline of hope and the commitment of determination. Our acts of generosity and solidarity matter.”

What does it mean to celebrate women in 2025?

It means investing in mental health—building a foundation that supports women facing loneliness, anxiety, and depression.

It means amplifying young leaders, lifting up community coalitions, and making sure that leadership works for all of us.

It means recognizing that New York Women’s Foundation is changing the world—one act of solidarity, one grant, one bold voice at a time.

Because when women lead with empathy, purpose, and vision, anything is possible

Let’s Swirl over to Long Island Vineyards

wine tasting at Croteaux Vineyard in Southold, Long Island. photo credit: Hamptons Mouthpiece — friends at Croteaux Vineyard in Southold, NY

Wine Legs, Long Island Blends and a Giant Pair of Legs in the Hamptons

Let’s talk about wine legs. Nope, not something you wear—though you could enjoy them in a cute outfit. We’re talking about the streaks that form inside your wine glass when you give it a swirl.

So, what are wine legs?

When you swirl your wine, you might notice little droplets forming and sliding down the inside of the glass. These are called legs. They’re kind of like the wine’s signature dance move. You’ll usually see them more clearly in wines with higher alcohol content. The more pronounced the legs, the higher the booze. It’s a neat little visual trick that happens thanks to evaporation and surface tension. Science in your glass!

Let’s swirl over to Long Island…

Wolffer vineyard glass of wine, photo credit Hamptons Mouthpiece

Long Island is known for its beautiful beaches, charming villages—and yes, some pretty amazing wine. One of the coolest things local winemakers are doing is blending. That means mixing different types of grapes (like Merlot, Cabernet Franc, and others) to create smooth, balanced wines with lots of character.

small plates at Wolffer Vineyard, photo credit: Hamptons Mouthpiece

Blended wines are like a group project where everyone actually pulls their weight. The result? Rich, complex flavors that reflect the region’s sunny days, salty breezes, and sandy soils. Wineries like Wölffer Estate, Paumanok, and Bedell Cellars are masters at this.

Larry Rivers legs Sculpture, photo credit Hamptons Mouthpiece

Now, about those other legs…

If you’ve driven around Sag Harbor, you might’ve spotted a giant pair of legs—literally—sticking out of the ground. That’s artist Larry Rivers’ famous sculpture, called “Legs.” It’s bold, quirky, and just a little bit cheeky, much like a good glass of red.

The sculpture has become a landmark in its own right. It reminds us that art, like wine, is meant to be seen, felt, and talked about—even if people don’t always agree on the taste.

In the end…

Whether you’re admiring the legs in your wine glass or the ones standing tall in Eastern Long Island, remember: life is a little more fun when you pause to appreciate the details. So swirl, sip, and savor the flavors (and the sights) of Long Island.

Cheers!

Breast Reduction Surgery: What Every Woman Should Know

Women’s Health: Breast Reduction Surgery: What Every Woman Should Know

Breast reduction surgery, also known as reduction mammoplasty, is a life-changing procedure for many women. Beyond the aesthetic benefits, it often dramatically improves physical comfort, emotional well-being, and overall quality of life. If you’re considering this procedure—or just curious—this guide will walk you through the most important things to know, including insights from Dr. Duc Bui, a leading plastic surgeon at Stony Brook Hospital.

My Story: Why I Chose Breast Reduction

I recently made the decision to have breast reduction surgery—and my life has changed for the better. Before my surgery, I experienced constant back pain, difficulty exercising, and trouble finding clothing that fit comfortably. Many women who had the surgery shared with me that their only regret was waiting too long. For me, however, I truly felt that I had my surgery at the right time in my life.

I am incredibly grateful to Dr. Bui for not only his surgical expertise but also his kindness, thoroughness, and support throughout my journey. Thank you, Dr. Bui, for changing my life.

Who Is a Good Candidate for Breast Reduction Surgery?

To better understand who might benefit from this procedure, I asked Dr. Bui:

Dr. Bui:

“A good candidate for Breast Reduction is someone experiencing physical symptoms like back, neck, and shoulder pain, or lifestyle limitations due to the size of their breasts. It’s also common for women to seek reduction for emotional reasons, such as self-consciousness or difficulty finding clothing. Breast reduction isn’t just cosmetic—it can truly enhance daily living and health.”

Common reasons women consider Breast Reduction surgery include:

• Chronic pain and poor posture

• Difficulty with physical activity

• Skin irritation or rashes

• Emotional distress and low self-esteem

What Should Women Expect During Breast Reduction Recovery?

Recovery is an important part of the process. Dr. Bui explained:

Dr. Bui said most women need at least one to two weeks off work, depending on their job. You’ll experience swelling, some soreness, and fatigue at first. It’s important to avoid heavy lifting and strenuous exercise for about four to six weeks. We guide patients carefully through each stage of healing to ensure the best results.”

Planning ahead for help at home and allowing your body the time it needs to heal is key for a smooth recovery.

Risks and Long-Term Considerations

Breast reduction is very safe, but like any surgery, it comes with considerations. Dr. Bui shared some important insights:

Dr. Bui:

Breastfeeding after breast reduction can be possible, but it may be impacted depending on the surgical method and how much tissue is removed. Weight gain or significant hormonal changes—like menopause—can also affect your breast size and shape long-term. We talk through these factors during consultations so women can make fully informed decisions.”

Women should also be aware that while results are long-lasting, aging, gravity, and life changes will naturally influence breast shape over time.

How Does Insurance Work for Breast Reduction?

One of the most common questions women have is whether breast reduction is covered by insurance because this surgery can be very expensive. This was definitely an important question for me. Dr. Bui explained that if the procedure is deemed medically necessary, many insurance plans will cover it. We help patients submit documentation showing the medical need—like chronic pain or rashes. Each insurance company has different requirements, so early verification is important.”

Factors like documented symptoms, medical history, and proof that other treatments have failed often help secure coverage.

I asked Dr. Bui what questions should you ask your Plastic Surgeon

During your consultation, it’s important to feel empowered. Here are smart questions to ask, as suggested by Dr. Bui:

• Are you board-certified in plastic surgery?

• How much experience do you have specifically with breast reductions?

• What surgical techniques do you use, and why?

• What results can I realistically expect?

• How do you minimize scarring?

• What should I prepare for during recovery?

• What happens if there are complications?

Choosing a surgeon you trust and feel comfortable with makes all the difference.

How Menopause Affects Breast Reduction Decisions

If you’re nearing or going through menopause, you may wonder whether it’s still a good time for surgery.

Dr. Bui:

“Hormonal changes during menopause can cause the breasts to change size or lose firmness. However, many women still benefit greatly from reduction, particularly if they’re experiencing physical discomfort. During consultations, we discuss how future changes might affect long-term results and set appropriate expectations.”

Even after menopause, breast reduction can provide physical relief and improve quality of life.

Final Thoughts

Breast reduction is about much more than just aesthetics—it’s about feeling better physically, emotionally, and mentally. My personal journey, with the incredible support of Dr. Duc Bui and the team at Stony Brook Hospital, reaffirmed that this decision was one of the best I’ve ever made.

If you’re considering breast reduction, know that you’re not alone. Ask questions, gather information, and find a surgeon who listens carefully to your goals. When the time is right, this surgery can truly be life-changing.

A Conversation with Dr. Florence Rolston: Women’s Health, Screening, and Building Healthy Habits

Hamptons Mouthpiece: A Conversation with Dr. Florence Rolston: Women’s Health, Screening, and Building Healthy Habits

Women’s Health: When it comes to women’s health, having a trusted voice to guide you through the stages of care is essential. I recently sat down with Dr. Florence Rolston, a distinguished physician specializing in women’s health, to discuss some of the key questions many young women and their families have: When should you schedule your first gynecologic visit? Why is the HPV vaccine so important? And what habits should we all be building for better long-term health?

When Should a Woman Have Her First Gynecologic Screening Visit?

Dr. Rolston shared that the first cervical cancer screening with a Pap smear should begin at age 21.

“It’s very unusual to find significant abnormal cervical changes before the age of 21,” Dr. Rolston explained. “That’s why the recommendation is to start screening at 21.”

However, Dr. Rolston emphasized that many young women will see a healthcare provider before then — particularly for screening and prevention of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). For women under 25 who are sexually active, annual STI screening is recommended.

“In terms of general health screening, most patients continue to see their family physician or pediatrician until they transition to adult medicine providers after age 21,” she added.

When is the Right Time to Get the HPV Vaccine, and Why is it Important?

The Human Papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine has revolutionized women’s health by drastically reducing the risk of cervical cancer and other HPV-related diseases. Dr. Rolston stressed the significance of receiving the vaccine before becoming sexually active, ideally starting around ages 11 or 12.

“The HPV vaccine has been incredibly beneficial in reducing cervical cancer rates in the U.S.,” she noted. “Compared to parts of the world where the vaccine isn’t widely available, the difference is dramatic.”

HPV is a common virus with over 100 different strains, but the vaccine targets the strains most commonly linked to cervical cancer and genital warts. Early vaccination provides the best protection.

What Healthy Habits Can We Incorporate Into Our Daily Lives?

Of course, health isn’t just about vaccines and screenings. Dr. Rolston passionately advocates for simple, daily habits that can make a world of difference:

“Health maintenance starts with eating a healthy diet. What you put into your body can have a huge impact on your overall health.”

She recommends focusing on:

• Fruits and vegetables

• Whole grains

• Lean proteins

• Limiting processed foods

• Staying well-hydrated

Exercise is equally crucial — not only for physical well-being but also for mental health.

“Regular exercise supports physical strength and reduces stress, which in turn helps your immune system,” Dr. Rolston said. “Even just getting outside into nature can lower stress levels significantly.”

Finally, managing stress itself is a key pillar of good health. Whether through mindfulness, hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or being active outdoors, keeping stress under control benefits both the mind and the body.

Final Thoughts

Dr. Rolston’s advice is clear: Prevention, early screening, and building strong daily habits are the foundation for a healthier life. Whether you’re scheduling your first gynecologic visit, getting vaccinated, or choosing better foods and activities, these steps are vital investments in your future well-being.

If you have questions about women’s health screenings or vaccinations, reach out to a qualified healthcare provider like those at Stony Brook Medicine, where Dr. Rolston and her colleagues are dedicated to supporting your journey to better health.

Vanessa Leggard