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Back in 2012, my friend Tara posted a status on Facebook called “Favorite things about me.” It was funny, bold, honest, and so unapologetically her that I could not stop smiling. It made me think about how rarely we pause to acknowledge the parts of ourselves we actually love. That moment was one of the first times I started paying attention to my own self-love journey. At that time, the world felt very focused on perfection. Filters and editing were becoming normalized, magazines were already retouching everything, and beauty standards were operating at full speed. It was exhausting.

Tara passed away during COVID in 2021, and I miss her every single day. Her voice, her humor, her energy, and the way she always spoke her truth. I am grateful I had her in my life, and I still feel her influence in the way I approach honesty and vulnerability.

Over the years, I have written about various aspects of my own self-love journey, including how I learned to prioritize myself. You can read more about that here: Putting Me First, How my wellness journey began and where it’s headed. 

If you can look in the mirror and like what you see, truly like it, that is a blessing. And you should never let anyone convince you otherwise.

For years, I struggled to like what I saw in the mirror. When I was younger, I was in an accident, and both of my feet suffered third-degree burns. For my entire childhood and early adulthood, I lived terrified that someone would notice. Men talk about women’s feet the way people talk about wine. Detailed, judgmental, and full of rules. It got in my head. I convinced myself I could never be seen as beautiful. I dated to fill an emptiness I did not know how to sit with. My self-esteem lived in the basement, and my self-love journey had not even begun.

Then one day, working at Mrs. Fields Cookies in Bloomingdale’s, a co-worker said to me, “You are so pretty. No one is looking at your feet.” It sounds simple, but that sentence cracked something open. The hardest thing I have ever done in my life was not motherhood, moving, career changes, or taking risks. It was the first day I wore shoes without stockings. That was the day I walked into the world without trying to hide. No pointing, no whispering, no falling apart. Just me. I did not know it at the time, but that moment was the first real step in my self-love journey.

From that moment on, I stopped letting other people’s opinions direct my life. If someone talks about me now, that is their hobby. I like me, and that is enough. Learning to hold that truth was part of my self-love journey, too.

I believe God gives us all a plan. Mine was to learn empathy through imperfection. I do not judge people for what they look like or what they are missing. I want to know their gifts and their heart. I am not a saint. If you are wearing something ridiculous, I may judge that, but that can be fixed. My self-love journey taught me that what matters most lives far beyond appearances.

• I love my body from my head to my toes
• I love my feet because they carried me through life when they easily could not have
• I love my smile, my voice, and my lips
• I embrace my voluptuous breasts (I might prefer one size down, so I did)
• I love my laugh
• I love my ability to love
• I love that I try to be a good friend
• I love my daughters and my husband
• I love my mind
• I love my sense of humor
• I love my ability to forgive
• I love that I am opinionated
• I love that I talk a lot
• I love wearing sexy dresses
• I love that I love without conditions
• I love helping people; it makes me happy
• I love that my family loves me unconditionally
• I love cooking for the people I care about

Are there areas I can improve? Of course. Staying in shape is about health now, not perfection. But my life is full of blessings. I wake up every day grateful. I thank God for my daughters and my husband, who is my rock and my number one fan.

If there is one thing I learned from Tara, it is that life is too short not to love who you are. Too short to shrink. Too short to wait for permission. Too short not to tell the truth about what makes you special.

To anyone reading, I invite you to make a list of your favorite things about yourself. Start small if you need to. Loving yourself, or even just liking yourself, can change how you move through the world.

Real talk. You deserve that.

Special thanks to my friend Tara Sharp for the inspiration. I love you, and I miss you.

If you thought the flu season softened after COVID, you are not alone. Many of us hoped those brutal winters were behind us; unfortunately, the flu did not get the memo. The 2025-2026 flu season has arrived loud, fast, and unapologetic, and the data backs up what many families are already feeling. This is not about panic. It is about paying attention.

Across the United States, the flu season activity has been high for weeks. This is not anecdotal or social media chatter. It is straight from national surveillance data.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, millions of Americans have already been sick this season. Tens of thousands have been hospitalized, and thousands of the flu season related deaths have been reported nationwide. Pediatric flu deaths have also occurred, which is always devastating and a painful reminder that influenza does not discriminate by age.

You can track national the flu season activity and trends directly through the CDC’s FluView reports HERE.

Reuters recently reported on CDC data describing the 2025 flu season as moderately severe, with case counts climbing into the millions and hospital systems once again under strain. That coverage helps translate the numbers into real world impact and is available HERE.

If it feels like everyone you know has been sick, you are not imagining it.

There is a reason this season feels heavier.

The dominant strain circulating right now is Influenza A, including strains like H3N2. Historically, Influenza A seasons tend to be more severe, with higher rates of complications and hospitalizations. The CDC’s weekly surveillance reports show that Influenza A viruses are the most frequently detected across the country this season.

You can see the strain breakdown and weekly updates directly from the CDC here:
https://www.cdc.gov/fluview/surveillance/index.html

Some years the flu vaccine is a closer match to circulating strains than others. That is an honest and important thing to acknowledge. But even in seasons where the match is not perfect, vaccination still plays a critical role in reducing severe illness, hospitalization, and death. Protection does not need to be perfect to be meaningful.

Here in New York, the flu has hit especially hard. The state has reported record breaking weekly flu case numbers and a sharp increase in flu related hospitalizations. Emergency rooms and urgent care centers have been busy, and healthcare workers are once again carrying a heavy winter load. If it feels like flu is everywhere, it kind of is.

Let’s clear something up, because this is where conversations often go sideways.

Yes, you can still get the flu even if you are vaccinated. The flu shot is not a magic shield. It never has been, but here is what matters most:

People who are vaccinated are far less likely to become severely ill. They are less likely to be hospitalized. They are less likely to end up in intensive care. They are far less likely to die from flu complications.

That is not marketing. That is public health reality.

My family gets our flu shot every single year. We do it consistently and without much debate at this point.

We understand that getting the flu shot is no guarantee that we will not get the flu. Like with COVID, we take comfort in knowing that if we do get sick, our chances of ending up on a ventilator or in an ICU bed are dramatically lower.

We are not chasing perfection.
We are choosing protection.
We are choosing fewer what if’s.

And honestly, after the last few years, peace of mind counts for a lot.

At this point, flu season feels like that uninvited guest who shows up in November, eats all your snacks, takes over the couch, and refuses to leave until spring. You can pretend it is not there, or you can prepare for it and give yourself the best chance of getting through winter intact.

The flu shot is not about fear. It is about preparation.

The flu is not just a bad cold.
This season has been serious.
Vaccination still works where it matters most.

If you have not gotten your flu shot yet and you are medically able to, it is still worth considering. Not because it guarantees you will not get sick, but because it helps protect you, your family, and the people around you from the worst outcomes.

Real talk.
Real people.
Real concerns.

And sometimes, real peace of mind is the best medicine we have.

Because apparently, she needed more attention in 2025

If you read my last thyroid update, Taming My Drama Queen Thyroid,” you already know my thyroid does not do subtle. She is dramatic. She is demanding. She thrives on chaos. She absolutely believes the world revolves around her.

Well, she’s back.
And she brought snacks.
Just not the ones I’m allowed to eat.

Yes, my Graves’ disease has made a return appearance in 2025. This time, it wasn’t loud panic or obvious symptoms. It was sneaky. My TSH dropped very low, even though I wasn’t feeling completely unhinged. But I was feeling off. And when you live with thyroid disease, “off” is your early warning system.

The Symptoms Were Quiet but Persistent

This round was less fireworks, more slow burn.

I was dealing with bloating, disrupted sleep, exhaustion that made no sense, increased anxiety, and certain food triggers that suddenly felt like they were personally attacking me. Nothing extreme on its own, but together it was enough for me to say, “Something is not right.”

I listened.
I called my doctor.
And here we are.

Back on Medication (Again)

Yes, I am back on my medication, methimazole, and I am already beginning to feel better. There is no shame in that. There is no failure in needing help. Thyroid disease is not something you power through. It is something you manage, sometimes for life.

Let me say this clearly:
Medication is not the enemy. Ignoring your body is.

Welcome Back to the Low-Iodine Diet

And now for the part that hurts the most.

I am officially back on a restricted low-iodine diet, which is about as fun as it sounds. Think of it as a cleanse, but without the joy or the bragging rights.

This means:

  • Limited coffee (cruel and unusual punishment)
  • No alcohol (I have thoughts about this)
  • No dairy
  • No gluten
  • No shellfish
  • No sea salt
  • And honestly, no joy in the snack aisle

Basically, none of the good stuff.
If it tastes amazing, I probably cannot have it.
If it brings happiness, it’s suspicious.

Between the medication and the diet, my thyroid has turned my life into a very beige experience. But I remind myself that this is temporary, intentional, and necessary.

What This Round Taught Me

Because thyroid disease always has a lesson:

  • Remission does not mean the story is over.
  • Symptoms do not have to be dramatic to be important.
  • Lab numbers matter, but so does how you feel.
  • Food can absolutely trigger symptoms, even when labs look “almost fine.”
  • Listening early beats fixing things later.

Most importantly, I learned again that your body whispers before it screams. If you pay attention early, you can often avoid the worst of it.

Why I’m Sharing This

Because too many people, especially women over 40, brush things off as stress, menopause, burnout, or just life. Sometimes it is life. And sometimes it is your thyroid quietly flipping the table.

Real talk:
If something feels off, trust yourself.
If your labs are “borderline,” push for answers.
If you need medication again, take it.
If you need to eat like a monk for a while, complain, but do it anyway.

There is strength in paying attention.
There is power in early action.
And there is freedom in telling the truth, even when that truth is:

“My thyroid is being a diva again, and I am on a diet I did not choose.”

What I’m Doing Now

Right now, I am focusing on:

  • Medication consistency
  • A restricted low-iodine diet, even though I miss everything
  • Limiting coffee and alcohol (send encouragement)
  • Eating foods that support healing, not chaos
  • Sleeping like it is my full-time job
  • Regular labs and doctor check-ins
  • Giving myself grace instead of guilt

Because healing is not linear. It is layered. And sometimes it is deeply inconvenient.

My thyroid may be a drama queen, but I am still in charge.
She can have the spotlight.
I run the show.

Stay tuned.
Hopefully, the next update is boring.

👉 Breast Reduction Surgery: What Every Woman Should Know

That article covered the decision, the surgery, the relief, and the optimism. This is the part of the story that came after the credits were supposed to roll.

When Healing Decided to Freestyle

Breast reduction is often described as the finish line. You cross it, take a deep breath, and step into a lighter, easier life. And in many ways, that was true for me. My shoulders relaxed. My body felt lighter. Clothes fit differently. The constant physical strain eased.

Then the scars started changing their personality.

At first, everything looked exactly how post-surgical scars are supposed to look. Then they became raised. Thicker. Itchy. Tender. Then painful. That was when I learned the word that would become a very unwelcome guest in my life: keloids.

Here is the part that still makes me pause. If I had known that keloids were hereditary, I would have told Dr. Bui immediately. Maybe he could have put a preventative plan in place. Maybe we could have tried early interventions sooner. Maybe I still would have developed them anyway. I truly do not know.

That is the thing about hindsight. It is always very confident.

What I do know is this. Once the keloids formed, my body made it clear that this was no small side effect. They grew slowly at first, then more aggressively. They rubbed against bras. They pulled at my skin. They turned getting dressed into a daily negotiation.

For a full year, I stayed in the “let us try everything else first” lane. Steroid injections. Silicone tape. Patience. Hope. Repeating the same sentence in my head: maybe this will be the time it works.

There were moments of improvement. Enough to keep me optimistic. Enough to make me delay a bigger decision. But over time, the truth became undeniable. The keloids were increasing in size. The treatments were no longer effective. And the discomfort was becoming part of my daily routine.

That is the moment when it stopped being about scars and started being about pain.

The Decision I Tried to Talk Myself Out Of

Making the choice to have another surgery was not easy. I was scared. There is no pretty way to say that. I did not want to put my body through another operation with no guarantee of success.

And then there was radiation.

That word hit me differently because my mother had breast cancer. She went through extensive radiation treatments. While it saved her life, it also caused other long-term health challenges. That experience lived quietly in my chest for decades. This was not just a medical decision. This was emotional history resurfacing at full volume.

To be fair, that was 32 years ago, when radiation treatment was still evolving. Medicine has come a long way. My doctors walked me through everything carefully. I was told this would be a very mild, targeted treatment, only three sessions, strictly to prevent the keloids from returning. Not cancer treatment. Not full radiation therapy. Just enough to interrupt the cycle of excessive scar growth.

I trusted the science. I trusted my medical team. But fear still rode shotgun.

Day One: When Courage and Pain Clocked In Together

The first radiation treatment happened immediately after surgery. And I will not sugarcoat it. I was in immense pain. Fresh incision pain. Emotional overload. Physical exhaustion. And instead of going home to rest, I went straight into radiation.

That day was the hardest of the entire journey. I showed up sore, scared, exhausted, and determined. Because sometimes healing does not give you the luxury of timing or comfort.

By the third day, something shifted. I did not need help undressing anymore. My body began to reclaim its independence. Fear loosened its grip just enough for hope to peek through.

Two Weeks Later: Hope Has Entered the Chat

It has now been two weeks since the keloid removal and radiation. And for the first time in a long time, I wake up with no pain. No sharp shooting pains through my breast. No constant tightness. No relentless itching.

I am still in recovery mode. I am not allowed to lift anything over five pounds. My physical activity is limited. I move carefully. I listen closely to my body. But the difference is night and day.

For the first time, I am looking forward to scar care instead of dreading it. I look forward to using silicone tape again not as a last-ditch effort, but as a healing tool. And this time, I can be patient. Because this was never about vanity.

This was about living without discomfort.

Here is the real talk.

  • Breast reduction changed my life.
  • Keloids tried to hijack the happy ending.
  • Steroids and silicone were helpful, but not the final answer.
  • Fear makes every medical decision louder.
  • And relief is worth fighting for.
  • Also, bodies are unpredictable. Even when you do everything right. Especially when you do everything right.

If you developed keloids after breast reduction, you did nothing wrong. If you are afraid of another surgery, you are normal. If the word radiation makes your heart race, you are not alone. And if you are tired of living with daily discomfort, your feelings are valid.

  • You deserve to wake up without pain.
  • You deserve to get dressed without bracing yourself.
  • You deserve a body that feels like home again.

Two weeks in, I finally feel hopeful. And hope, my friends, is a very good place to begin again. I will add a part 3 of my wellness journey in a few months focused entirely on radiation recovery, scar care, and what to expect next. Many thanks to Dr. Duc T. Bui who is now at NYU Langone Health

I feel 30 years younger.
Here’s why…


Youth is a whole mood. I feel 30 years younger. Here’s why… There comes a moment when you wake up, stretch, and your body says, “Oh, we are doing amazing today.” Not “my knees sound like a percussion section.” Not “I need five minutes and a prayer to get out of bed.” No. Amazing.

Real Talk. Real People. I literally feel 30 years younger. And listen… that did not happen because I stumbled on a sale for magic supplements on Instagram. It happened because I finally did the one thing that changes everything.

I chose myself!

For decades, I poured into everyone else’s cup, my family, my work, my community. If someone needed something, I was there faster than overnight delivery. Meanwhile, I was surviving on caffeine, stress, and a “maybe I’ll sleep next month” mentality.

Then one day, I woke up with a whole new energy. Not today. Not anymore. And when a woman chooses herself? The glow is undeniable.

My body started responding like: Oh! You love us now? Say less. I slept. I moved my body. I nourished myself like someone I care about. I set boundaries that were not up for negotiation. I healed, not the cute social-media kind, the real, tear-streaked, deep kind.

Suddenly… energy. Strength. Joy. Feeling young again is not shallow; it is survival. It is honoring your body before it quits on you. It is saying yes to life again. It is reclaiming every part of you that got lost while you were busy holding everyone else together.

Healing is hot. Mental peace is juicy. Self-respect is the facelift you do not need to finance. The more I chase joy, the more joy chases me right back. I wake up excited. I move like I have somewhere fabulous to be, even if it’s just the kitchen. My heart beats with possibility.

Aging isn’t the enemy. Abandoning yourself is. I spent years putting everyone first. Now I’m leading my own parade, and trust me, the band is playing loudly.

What I know for sure: you cannot bloom if you keep watering everyone else’s garden but your own. Self-care is not selfish. It is survival. And if this is what survival looks like? Honey, I’m ready to thrive.

Thirty years younger? Let’s upgrade it to timeless.

Real Talk. Real People. Youth is a whole mood, and I am living it loudly.

  • Power down screens 60 minutes before bed
  • Bedroom = dark, cool, quiet (sleep sanctuary vibes)
  • Same sleep + wake time every day (yes, even weekends)
  • Sip something soothing: chamomile, magnesium, tart cherry
  • Gratitude brain dump: 3 things → peace of mind → better REM
  • 30–45 min movement most days (walk, dance, bike, live your life)
  • Strength training 2–3x weekly (muscle = youth insurance)
  • Stretch or mobility work daily (hips and joints don’t lie)
  • Sneaky NEAT: stairs, parking far, house grooves
  • Track steps to stay honest, aim for progress, not perfection

Say these with your whole chest:

  • “That won’t work for me.”
  • “I’m not available for that.”
  • “No, and thank you for understanding.”
  • “Let me get back to you once I check my priorities.”
  • “I don’t explain my no.”
    Boundaries = energy Botox.
  • Laugh every day. Extra points for snort laughs.
  • Schedule delight: 1 tiny joy before noon
  • Nature time (trees are cheaper than therapy)
  • Music that makes you feel 25 again
  • Hug people who fuel you, not drain you
  • Hydrate like it’s your full-time job
  • Stay curious, learn something new weekly
  • Wear sunscreen (yes, winter too)
  • Release the drama, increase the peace
  • Celebrate EVERYTHING (even small wins)