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Real talk. Real people. Real consequences. Politics is supposed to be about service, not self-preservation. A politician is meant to be a protector and an advocate for the public. They are trusted to speak up, stand firm, and use their position to create meaningful change for their constituents. That is the responsibility. So why does power so often become the goal?

Most politicians do not enter public life intending to betray public trust. Many step into office wanting to help, to fix broken systems, and to be a voice for their community.

But power has a way of changing priorities.

Over time, the position becomes status. The title becomes identity. The focus quietly shifts from serving the people to protecting the seat.

This is where public service begins to erode.

If you want to understand political behavior, do not just listen to speeches. Follow the money.

Campaign donations, lobbyists, special interests, and political favors all influence decisions. Too often, choices are shaped by who funds a campaign instead of who lives with the consequences.

When money leads, political accountability weakens. Real people pay the price.

Power does not always stop at influence. Sometimes, power feeds on itself.

Control becomes addictive. Authority turns into entitlement. Transparency fades. Ethical shortcuts begin to feel justified.

This is how fraud, manipulation, and corruption in government take hold. It rarely happens overnight. It happens slowly, quietly, and often behind closed doors.

Public trust erodes in the process.

This is the question many avoid asking.

Is power so intoxicating that a politician would say anything to keep their position? Would they ignore facts, silence critics, or refuse to step aside even when doing so would clearly serve their constituents better?

Sometimes the most responsible decision is knowing when to walk away. That choice requires humility, courage, and a willingness to put people before power.

Integrity in politics is rarely rewarded in the short term.

Doing the right thing can mean losing donors, losing party support, or losing reelection. But it also builds something far more valuable than influence. It builds trust.

Leadership and integrity are not measured by how long someone holds office. They are measured by how power is used and whether it is surrendered when necessary.

This is not only a political problem. It is a cultural one.

We often reward charisma over character and sound bites over substance. If we want better leaders, we must demand accountability, transparency, and honesty.

Real people deserve real leadership.

Power in politics is not inherently harmful. Unchecked power is.

When holding office becomes more important than serving the public, democracy weakens. When power is protected at all costs, trust disappears.

A politician’s role is to serve the people. It is not to rule them.

When the answer stops being the people, it is time to question whether power has become more addictive than doing the right thing.

Real talk. Real people. This is what leadership should look like.

Jacqueline Woodson, Fran Drescher: Photo Credit: BFA/Bre Johnson, PMC/ Sean Zanni

Celebrating Women 2025: Power, Possibility, and the Bold Leaders Shaping Our Future

This year’s Celebrating Women® Breakfast, hosted by The New York Women’s Foundation at the New York Marriott Marquis, was more than a fundraiser, it was a movement. With over 1,000 advocates, partners, and changemakers in the room, the event raised over $1.2 million to power community-led grantmaking and grassroots solutions across New York City and beyond.

The theme, “Together, we create power and possibility,” resonated deeply. It captured the urgency of now and the promise of a future led by those closest to the challenges we seek to overcome.

“People closest to the pain should be closest to the problem,” was a guiding truth echoed throughout the morning.

Leading With Empathy and Impact

Fran Drescher, the iconic actor, advocate, and founder of Cancer Schmancer, took the stage as a voice of courage and clarity. Her words were raw, real, and unforgettable:

“Be bold. Go after what you want. I’m a voice in the wilderness, speaking truth at a seminal crossroad. I call people on their untruths and I don’t need to emulate male energy to lead. I lead with empathy.”

She reminded the audience that “how you live directly affects how you feel,” and left everyone thinking deeply about wellness, the planet, and self-worth:

“Make yourself the center of your universe. You are what you eat. Don’t hurt yourself and don’t hurt the planet.”

Lola C. West, NYWF Board Member and Steering Committee Co-Chair, called Fran “a badass” and the room agreed.

Celebrating Leadership That Creates Change

Honorees included:

Jacqueline Woodson, author and founder of BALDWIN FOR THE ARTS, uplifted the role of artists and activists:

“We’re trying to make this world safer for gender-expansive people, for women, for everyone who dares to live their truth.”

ERA Coalition Forward was recognized for building a national, multi-generational movement to enshrine equality in the U.S. Constitution.

New Yorkers for Equal Rights celebrated the passage of the New York Equal Rights Amendment (Proposal 1), affirming protections for all New Yorkers.

• The Young Women’s Coalition – Long Island Community showed how local leadership drives lasting change.

Jean Shafiroff

JPMorganChase received the Vision Award for their investment in equity, opportunity, and inclusive economic growth.

• NYWF also spotlighted community partners like The Brooklyn Economic Justice Projectand The Informed Consent Coalition, organizations addressing the root causes of inequality with intersectional, community-based solutions.

Building a New Foundation for the Future

President and CEO Ana L. Oliveira grounded the event with powerful intention:

“The Foundation will continue in the discipline of hope and the commitment of determination. Our acts of generosity and solidarity matter.”

What does it mean to celebrate women in 2025?

It means investing in mental health building a foundation that supports women facing loneliness, anxiety, and depression.

It means amplifying young leaders, lifting up community coalitions, and making sure that leadership works for all of us.

It means recognizing that New York Women’s Foundation is changing the world one act of solidarity, one grant, one bold voice at a time.

Because when women lead with empathy, purpose, and vision, anything is possible

Jacqueline Woodson & Carol Jenkins

UPDATE 2015: Nichols Restaurant is closed..Updates coming soon!

UPDATE 2014….3 Burger places have been removed from this list for several reasons: this list was originally published in 2012, Barristers my favorite Burger place in the Hamptons closed in 2013, Madison & Main (Sag Harbor) closed their doors 12/2013. I will be on the search for 3 more places in the Hamptons that make the BEST burgers….
Best Burgers in the Hamptons….Who doesn’t love a list…when you are searching for things on the Internet, you might type in search BEST THIS or BEST THAT…..So with that in mind this year every week I will be posting about the Best Restaurants, Best burgers, Best Lobster Rolls, Best Drinks, Best beaches, Best shopping, best movies…BEST, BEST, BEST in the Hamptons…

Top 10 Restaurants in the Hamptons who make the Best Burgers in the Hamptons..no particular order
  1. Southampton Publick House: Southampton
  2.  Rowdy Hall: East Hampton
  3. East Hampton Grill: East Hampton
  4. 1770 House: East Hampton
  5. Corner Bar: Sag Harbor
  6. Big Bity Burger: WestHampton Beach

 

My personal favorite was Barristers in Southampton…I loved the burgers here, and when you order make sure you get the sautéed onions and cheddar cheese….mmmmmmm DELICIOUS! Who will take their place as my all time favorite NUMBER#1 Burger Place in the Hamptons. 
As always, Hamptons Mouthpiece keeping you in the know with the Hamptons Best!!!

Wine Legs, Long Island Wine Blends and a Giant Pair of Legs in the Hamptons, Real talk, Real People

wine tasting at Croteaux Vineyard in Southold, Long Island. photo credit: Hamptons Mouthpiece
friends at Croteaux Vineyard in Southold, NY

Long Island wine: Let’s talk about wine legs. Nope, not something you wear—though you could enjoy them in a cute outfit. We’re talking about the streaks that form inside your wine glass when you give it a swirl.

So, what are wine legs?

Wine Swirl to see wine legs

When you swirl your wine, you might notice little droplets forming and sliding down the inside of the glass. These are called legs. They’re kind of like the wine’s signature dance move. You’ll usually see them more clearly in wines with higher alcohol content. The more pronounced the legs, the higher the booze. It’s a neat little visual trick that happens thanks to evaporation and surface tension. Science in your glass!

Let’s swirl over to Long Island Wine…

Wolffer vineyard glass of wine, photo credit Hamptons Mouthpiece

Long Island wine is known for its beautiful beaches, charming villages—and yes, some pretty amazing wine. One of the coolest things local winemakers are doing is blending. That means mixing different types of grapes (like Merlot, Cabernet Franc, and others) to create smooth, balanced wines with lots of character.

small plates at Wolffer Vineyard, photo credit: Hamptons Mouthpiece

Blended wines are like a group project where everyone actually pulls their weight. The result? Rich, complex flavors that reflect the region’s sunny days, salty breezes, and sandy soils. Wineries like Wölffer Estate, Paumanok, and Bedell Cellars are masters at this.

Larry Rivers legs Sculpture, photo credit Hamptons Mouthpiece

Now, about those other legs…

If you’ve driven around Sag Harbor, you might’ve spotted a giant pair of legs—literally—sticking out of the ground. That’s artist Larry Rivers’ famous sculpture, called “Legs.” It’s bold, quirky, and just a little bit cheeky, much like a good glass of red.

The sculpture has become a landmark in its own right. It reminds us that art, like wine, is meant to be seen, felt, and talked about—even if people don’t always agree on the taste.

In the end…

Whether you’re admiring the legs in your wine glass or the ones standing tall in Eastern Long Island, remember: life is a little more fun when you pause to appreciate the details.

I recently had the perfect day on the North Fork with NorthFork Taste Wilfred and Veda were the absolute best hosts—so warm, knowledgeable, and just fun to be around. My Best Friend and I kicked things off with breakfast on Love Lane, then hit two gorgeous vineyards: one sustainable with a fascinating backstory I’d never heard before, and the other, one of my personal faves. Great wine, great vibes, great company—can’t wait to do it again.

If you’re planning a wine tour, treat yourself! Use code VANESSA10 for 10% off any luxury wine experience with North Fork Taste.

So swirl, sip, and soak it all in—because Long Island has legs in all the best ways.

Cheers!

Women’s Health: Breast Reduction Surgery: What Every Woman Should Know

Breast reduction surgery, also known as reduction mammoplasty, is a life-changing procedure for many women. Beyond the aesthetic benefits, it often dramatically improves physical comfort, emotional well-being, and overall quality of life. If you’re considering this procedure, or just curious this guide will walk you through the most important things to know, including insights from Dr. Duc Bui, a leading plastic surgeon at Stony Brook Hospital.

My Story: Why I Chose Breast Reduction

I recently made the decision to have breast reduction surgery and my life has changed for the better. Before my surgery, I experienced constant back pain, difficulty exercising, and trouble finding clothing that fit comfortably. Many women who had the surgery shared with me that their only regret was waiting too long. For me, however, I truly felt that I had my surgery at the right time in my life.

I am incredibly grateful to Dr. Bui for not only his surgical expertise but also his kindness, thoroughness, and support throughout my journey. Thank you, Dr. Bui, for changing my life.

Who Is a Good Candidate for Breast Reduction Surgery?

To better understand who might benefit from this procedure, I asked Dr. Bui:

Dr. Bui:

“A good candidate for Breast Reduction is someone experiencing physical symptoms like back, neck, and shoulder pain, or lifestyle limitations due to the size of their breasts. It’s also common for women to seek reduction for emotional reasons, such as self-consciousness or difficulty finding clothing. Breast reduction isn’t just cosmetic—it can truly enhance daily living and health.”

Common reasons women consider Breast Reduction surgery include:

  • Chronic pain and poor posture
  • Difficulty with physical activity
  • Skin irritation or rashes
  • Emotional distress and low self-esteem

What Should Women Expect During Breast Reduction Recovery?

Recovery is an important part of the process. Dr. Bui explained:

Dr. Bui said most women need at least one to two weeks off work, depending on their job. You’ll experience swelling, some soreness, and fatigue at first. It’s important to avoid heavy lifting and strenuous exercise for about four to six weeks. We guide patients carefully through each stage of healing to ensure the best results.”

Planning ahead for help at home and allowing your body the time it needs to heal is key for a smooth recovery.

Risks and Long-Term Considerations

Breast reduction is very safe, but like any surgery, it comes with considerations. Dr. Bui shared some important insights:

Dr. Bui:

Breastfeeding after breast reduction can be possible, but it may be impacted depending on the surgical method and how much tissue is removed. Weight gain or significant hormonal changes, like menopause can also affect your breast size and shape long-term. We talk through these factors during consultations so women can make fully informed decisions.”

Women should also be aware that while results are long-lasting, aging, gravity, and life changes will naturally influence breast shape over time.

How Does Insurance Work for Breast Reduction?

One of the most common questions women have is whether breast reduction is covered by insurance because this surgery can be very expensive. This was definitely an important question for me. Dr. Bui explained that if the procedure is deemed medically necessary, many insurance plans will cover it. We help patients submit documentation showing the medical need, like chronic pain or rashes. Each insurance company has different requirements, so early verification is important.”

Factors like documented symptoms, medical history, and proof that other treatments have failed often help secure coverage.

I asked Dr. Bui what questions should you ask your Plastic Surgeon

During your consultation, it’s important to feel empowered. Here are smart questions to ask, as suggested by Dr. Bui:

  • Are you board-certified in plastic surgery?
  • How much experience do you have specifically with breast reductions?
  • What surgical techniques do you use, and why?
  • What results can I realistically expect?
  • How do you minimize scarring?
  • What should I prepare for during recovery?
  • What happens if there are complications?

Choosing a surgeon you trust and feel comfortable with makes all the difference.

How Menopause Affects Breast Reduction Decisions

If you’re nearing or going through menopause, you may wonder whether it’s still a good time for surgery.

Dr. Bui:

“Hormonal changes during menopause can cause the breasts to change size or lose firmness. However, many women still benefit greatly from reduction, particularly if they’re experiencing physical discomfort. During consultations, we discuss how future changes might affect long-term results and set appropriate expectations.”

Even after menopause, breast reduction can provide physical relief and improve quality of life.

Final Thoughts

Breast reduction is about much more than just aesthetics, it’s about feeling better physically, emotionally, and mentally. My personal journey, with the incredible support of Dr. Duc Bui and the team at Stony Brook Hospital, reaffirmed that this decision was one of the best I’ve ever made.

If you’re considering breast reduction, know that you’re not alone. Ask questions, gather information, and find a surgeon who listens carefully to your goals. When the time is right, this surgery can truly be life-changing.