Greetings Hamptons MouthPiece Readers…..Big Brother is Always Watching
Has social media and texting decreased your phone time? When is the last time you called a friend to hear their voice? Everyone is so busy all the time that they do not make the time to pick up the phone to call a friend. I find when I speak to some of my friends on the phone, I feel rushed like they are keeping watch of the time and therefore the conversation feels weird and often times one-sided. I realize that I am a talker and can often talk for a long time but I am also incredibly busy and if I have made the time to talk to you on the phone it must say something about our friendship. Texting has become a way of life to many people that goes back almost 20 years when AIM was introduced with AOL….since then the technology has advanced and now you can have your chat all the time wherever you are. I wonder how many people use SKYPE to communicate face to face, that would be a welcome relief and more personal and even better than texting on the phone.
Has America become to reliant on the advancement of technology? It used to be a time when you called a place of business and a live voice would answer the phone, today that service is only administered by very few. I don’t know about you but it frustrates me when I make a call and I get an automated recording in which it takes me nearly 15-20 minutes before I can get a live voice. I find it rude and incredibly unprofessional, but yet this is acceptable in our society because everyone is doing it. Has the position of a receptionist faded and become antiquated? Who are the gate-keepers for the abundance of sales people that come knocking on your door everyday? Where is that personal touch that makes you different than your competitor?
These my friends are all reasons why some businesses fail and other succeed….Adapting to new technology is essential but keeping some of the old-fashion ways of doing business is just as important. Our society may have tossed out using the phone for talk time and substituted for texting with friends but they have not when they are conducting business or placing an order. There has to be a balance and I am finding that many businesses are having a hard time locating that balance. Here’s food for thought…..would you advertise with a company that has a live person that answers the phone or a company that never answers the phone and you are left to deal with the automated service. We all would like to save money on services, but is it worth saving a few pennies and not have the customer service. I choose to spend more money for better customer service if I need to use it. I like texting, sending emails and chatting with friends on Facebook, but that can sometimes be impersonal and hearing someone’s voice or seeing them in person is priceless, warm and embracing.
I leave you with this thought….BIG BROTHER IS ALWAYS WATCHING and not everything should be said in an email or by text….just saying……
We have seen how the seasonal and pop-up businesses in these towns have been a huge disruption for both towns with the many local year-round businesses. Many local mom&pop shops have been forced out and leases have not been renewed because others are secretly going to the landlords and offering them significant increases making it too good a deal for a landlord to turn down. The small mom&pop locations cannot compete and therefore they are seeing their life work disappear before their eyes. Many of these new businesses are not focused on reaching the community only the seasonal people and are prepared to take a loss in the winter months.
I have always loved the uniqueness of Sag Harbor because it has always been immune from big chain stores on Main Street and to some degree still is, but I wonder how long will this last. In 2010 we saw the Cigar Bar close due to many misfortunes and yet this spot still remains empty. In 2011 the spot next to the old Cigar bar remained empty, the cleaners closed and at the end of the summer season the Pizza Shop closed, then in early December the Bike Shop closed its doors and Baystreet Theatre announced that they would be leaving Sag Harbor because the landlord wants to increase their rent.
I personally think that Bay Street Theatre leaving Sag Harbor will be a huge lost for the town and Main Street, many businesses will feel the lost of their presence. Now the newest drama is Java Nation will also be leaving its current location, according to the East Hampton Star it is because the landlord will not be renewing the lease. In several local publications it is noted that Collette Cosignment will be taking over the location and has offered the landlord a considerable monthly increase to rent the location. I spoke to the owner of Collette to get a statement from her but she refused me and indicated that she would not be speaking to the media because rumors are escalating. I say why not set the record straight and tell your side, but once again is the primary focus to reach the local community or just a seasonal clientale who can afford to shop at this store. I am in no way indicating Collette Consignment is like one of the big Stores dominating both East Hampton and Southampton but her business reaches an affluent clientele and it’s businesses like hers that are dominating Main Street throughout the Hamptons. It has also been rumored that there are plans to put in an upscale coffee spot, I have no idea if this is true, only time will tell what will be occupying this location. According to the East Hampton Star the owners of Java Nation were not even offered an opportunity to stay and even if they were would they be able to afford such a heavy increase? Whose is the culprit for the turnover throughout Main Street in the Hamptons…I say GREED! I am disappointed that Java Nation will be closing, although I am not a loyal customer of this establishment many others are and the owners have built a very nice following. I am told it really is the only place to get fresh coffee beans and it will be a lost. My daughter says and I quote “What’s the point of coming home now”I personally thought to see her parents, but clearly it was to visit Java Nation…my feelings are somewhat hurt 🙁
It is only a matter of time before we start to see pop-ups on main street in Sag Harbor. I really hope that Sag Harbor continues to keep its uniqueness and charm of catering to everyone and not just the rich because that would be a real shame. Since I have lived in Sag Harbor I have only seen it extremely quiet in late January and February, it is busy all the time and people from all over the world come to Sag Harbor because it really does feel like you are on vacation.
We must Save Sag Harbor from the horrors of Big Brother….but how can we do this….A change is coming but are we ready for it. I hope that change is not coming this year because I love being able to support the local business. What are thoughts on what’s happening on Main Street though-out the Hamptons?
Hamptons: Sometimes getting Fired is the best thing that can happen in your life..You wake up in the morning and say what the heck am I going to do? How am I going to make money? How will I pay my bills? How will I feed my kids, HOW WILL I SUPPORT MYSELF? What am I going to do, then it clicks, and you have no choice but to think positively and you immediately go into action. The most important thing is to not let life’s uncertainties overtake you, you have to take command of the situation and you have to go into action, you have to create an action plan for the rest of your life. You are either going to lie down or you are going to get up..Everybody gets knock down, just what are you going to do to get up…its time to get up! For me it was time for me to get up, show myself what I was made of. Throughout your entire life you are created for certain moments, when your moment arrives what are you going to do with it? Are you going to waste the moment and grovel in self pity and uncertainty or will you use the moment to expand your horizons and develop other outlets for your own genius to create something fantastic. We all have genius in us, what are you going to do with those innate abilities that we all have within us? Will you use it for your growth and development, IT IS TIME TO GET BUSY!...This is what I have done, I have gotten busy, I have taken control of my life. I will not let the situation control me I will control the situation. I am so good at so many things and I have made a lot of money for so many people for too long only reaping a 10-20% reward, its my time now to take in 100% of the profits. So getting fired was an initial blow to my ego and it burned and I was worried; but I quickly got up and flicked off that bug and realized that this was a higher being talking to me and leading me in a different direction.
There is hope my friends do not let getting fired get you down, the best days of your life are to come. Always remember when one door closes another door opens. Here are a few suggestions for you:
1. Apply for unemployment quickly, do not let pride get in your way,
2.Write down a list of your skills and talents
3. Research…know the industry that you are seeking
4. What are the new trends, how can you make a living from this
5. Be your own salesperson, sell yourself and what you bring to the table
6. Network, Network,Network
7. Immediately send out an email to your network with your new email
8. Be Positive, people like being around positive people not negative people
9. Have Faith in yourself
10. Decide whether you want a job or a Career
Our Family them song is “Ali in the Jungle” Everybody gets knock down, but the question is How quick are you going to get up?