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Hamptons Fashion: The $10,000 coat..

The coat has a swing that you cannot deny

The fabric so soft it could make you cry

Is it the best coat ever?

Paris Fashion Week

This  week I was on a shoot where the main attraction was a Giorgio Armani coat that retailed for $8895.  MmmHmm.  After tax it would be over $10,000.  There were… reactions.  Mostly surprise and disbelief with a little disgust thrown in. Who would/could pay such a price for a coat? A family of 4 could eat for a year for the price of the coat.  I was slightly panicked that just by touching it I would somehow be responsible for purchasing it.  I’m not judging–I would love to be able to afford the coat–but it did get me thinking about how we spend our time and money on our clothes.

One woman who is a particular coat devotee immediately saw the value in this coat.  According to her, a coat is the easiest thing to wear to make you look instantly put together.  I grew up in Florida and still have some trouble wrapping my mind about wearing any coat.  But she has a job where she is constantly running in and out of stores so actually wearing a coat is her life, not just a way to keep the harsh New York winter from freezing her to death.

When I am working with my clients I can spend a lot of time convincing some that a certain price is a good value for something, especially if it is a purchase outside their spending comfort zone.  This is based on a lot of things, not just whether or not they have the money for it or if it looks good on them.  I consider how many times they will be able to wear it, what pieces it will work with in their closets. I have no blanket rule on what you should spend extra money on clotheswise except that like furniture it should be the best that you can afford and you must absolutely love it.

Many times when talking with people who know I am a stylist they automatically get defensive about buying cheap clothes.  “I’m not going to pay X for just a top that I am only going to wear a few times.” Yes, you will only wear that cheap ass top a few times because it will fall apart and look like shit after only a few wears. Then you will have to buy a new one and then another—a constant (constant!) cycle of cheap disappointment.

Or they say they bought it just because it was:

On sale



 Buying clothes “just because” anything is a very slippery slope.  That is how you end up with a closet full of nothing to wear.   I call it The Loehmann’s Syndrome.   For those of you who don’t know, Loehmann’s was, until very recently, the place to go in NYC for designer discounts.  Some of the things were so cheap that it was as if they were paying you to take home.  As in most of the off price stores there were so many shiny labels and lush looking pieces that you became convinced that your life would be perfect if you had it.  I would shop there for shoots and clients and come out with a huge bag of designer items. Yay! We would keep maybe 1 or 2 pieces after we tried it all on. Boo! The fits or the colors would be off, the piece would be hyper trendy or just plain useless. Buying  “just because” anything is a complete waste of time and money.   If you took the time to really consider your purchases like you would anything else I guarantee you would be much happier with your wardrobe.

But Carmen, you say, I’m ready to stop wasting time and money on my clothes but how do I begin? Don’t worry!  Below are a few questions I have come up with to help.  These are all things I ask myself before I purchase anything.  Be patient—if you have a habit of buying your clothes “just because”, this process will take a little longer but eventually it only takes a few seconds.  Stick with it and you will start to see changes in your wardrobe and your wallet!

When you go shopping and there is something you want to buy “just because”

  1. Walk away from the item and find a quiet spot. The bathroom will do.
  2. Take a deep breath and imagine yourself wearing this item.
  3. When you try it on does it make me feel crazy wonderful full of joy like everything is right with the world and always will be?
  4. Which and how many of your features does it enhance?
  5. Do you have anything else like it in your closet? (Be Honest)
  6. Do you have an idea of what else it will go with in your closet?
  7. Do you love it?
  8. Is the price something you can truly afford?
  9. Will you have guilt or shame because you have purchased this item instead of proudly wearing it because you worked hard for the money to buy such an amazing thing
  10. How often will you be able to wear this in your life? Once? Seasonally? Every day? Breaking down the cost per wear can be really informative.

Remember—these are just guidelines. The point of this exercise is get you to be more mindful with how you spend your money on clothes. This also does not mean that I am above retail therapy!  I understand that sometimes our gathering instinct kicks in an we must fill our berry baskets with something amazing.  When that happens I say buy makeup! The most expensive product tops out at around $50 and you can wear it right out of the store.

Do you want to stop wasting your time and money on clothes that don’t work for you? Could you use some style guidance? Find out if we are meant to work together! Click here to contact me and schedule a free 20 minute phoner!

Hamptons Style: 3 Things Used on Every Oscars Look this Year.  You can do it, too!

Our style reflects what we think about ourselves. It’s more attitude than the event of the clothes.“  Sharon Stone on wearing her husbands Gap button down shirt with Vera Wang lavender skirt to the 1998 Oscars.

A big giant smoochie thank you to my boyfriend who graciously let me hog the tv during red carpet coverage when the Rangers were playing.

When I began my career as a wardrobe stylist my very first job was working with celebrity stylist Phillip Bloch.  He needed and extra pair of hands to help zip Halle Berry into dresses during Oscars fittings.  Yep. My first styling job—zipping up Halle Berry. For her Oscar.  Awwwsooome! I still do a little jiggly dance when I think about that.

For this week’s post I have, in the name of research, viewed (gorged on) every Oscars fashion list I could find.  Best Dressed of all time, most memorable, worst dressed, most influential.  During my research I noticed that every look used  at least 4 of the Fab7.  So I thought I would share the results with you.  The next time you have a special event, put these to use for your very own red carpet life!oscars 2014 red carpet

Dress with Intent: The Oscars is ultimate expression of Dressing With Intent.  You can bet that every one of those nominees has been dreaming since she was little of what she is wearing when her name gets called.  Her wardrobe ID is probably something like regal, old Hollywood glamour, princess.

  • For your own occasion sit quietly for a few minutes and consider how you want to feel.  Without thinking too hard imagine yourself at the event and just notice what you are wearing.  Write it down, sketch it or cut out a photo from a magazine.  Then bring it with you when you are shopping. You’d be surprised how this really helps to find the perfect thing. For more information on this tune in to the encore of the Dress With Intent Workshop this Thursday here.

Tailor it Swiftly: Many of the Oscars gowns have been specially made for its wearer.  There have been multiple fittings. Hemlines have all be perfectly tailored so that no one trips. Straps don’t fall down. Everything is nipped and tucked to perfection.

  • On a long gown do a hem just touches the floor. Make sure you wear the same shoes to your fitting that you will wear on the night.
  • Learn a few simple tailoring techniques so you can avoid wardrobe malfunctions.  Here’s one below.

If you have a dress that must stay in place use double stick tape.  Topstick is the only double stick tape I use.  It’s toupee tape and is made to stay on the skin. Dragqueens use it so you know its good.  I like to place it on the dress first and the let it fall where it is supposed to.  Press firmly to keep it in place and make sure you bring extra just in case!

topstick saves the day
Keep It SimpleAlmost every Oscars look demonstrates the Fab4 Rule: 4 or less garments and 4 or less accessories.  This is a good place to start with any outfit. 
Academy Awards 2014: Arrivals

 Good Under Where?

  • Although you can’t see it, there is copious use of good old fashioned foundation garments.  Lineless panties, waist cinchers, nipple covers, sticky bras, built-in corsets, body shapers and smoothers.  It all starts here.

SPANX® Thong - Oh My Posh! High-WaistedSpanx Trust Your Thinstincts Mid-Thigh, BlackSPANX® 'Boostie-Yay' Comfy Corset

This season, who did you think was best dressed? Worst dressed?  We love to sit there and judge everyone on how they looked and how they should have looked. I’m guilty of it too.  But the reality is that even those on the worst dressed list have probably spent a lifetime preparing for this moment. And they certainly walked out of the house feeling like this was their expression of their best self. With the Fab7 you can feel like that every day!

Thank you to everyone who came out to Hampton Coffee Company in Southampton this Sunday for the pre-Oscars Dress With Intent Workshop.  We had a lot of fun! Our live broadcast was not so live because I forgot to push the big red button.  So, I will be doing an encore broadcast this Thursday at 5:30. Here is the link!

Click here to shop for Fab7 recommended stuff!

Hamptons Hipster: The First thing you should know in creating a wardrobe you love!

Dress with Intent….Deep cleansing breath and …. Go!

Dress with Intent means that you put care and effort into getting dressed and expressing your best self that day.  Think of it as the same as getting a massage or brushing your teeth.  You do these things for yourself but in turn they also have a positive impact on those around you.  You are more relaxed and you don’t have stinky breath and rotted teeth.    You are intentionally trying to create a positive force in the world simply by getting dressed.  In some small way you are caring for the world.  YES!! (add fist pump here)

Dress with Intent..Lupita Nyong'o dazzles in Red 2014
I know it sounds a little woo woo.   It doesn’t mean dressing to gain a positive reaction from someone else—we don’t have control over what other people think.   But if I can walk out the door knowing that I have put the effort in to expressing my best self today, it’s a really good start.

I mention this a lot when I am working with clients.  The idea that getting dressed in the morning before you face the world should be the highlight of your morning routine.  This is the moment that you get to choose who you are that day.  As with so many things it starts with an idea—once you have clarity on that idea everything else falls into place.  Many people come to me wanting to know how to get that clarity in their closet. They have amazing clothes that feel right when they leave the store but somehow it doesn’t translate to their real lives. Why not?  No clarity.  Having clarity on how you want to look is just as important as the clothes themselves.  Enter a little thing I call:


Your wardrobe ID is the starting block for any outfit.  Here comes the woo woo again:  It is the combination of ideas that you want to express at a certain moment:

How do you want to feel? For example:  if I were going on a job interview to, say, a law office, my wardrobe ID would be something like fierce, in control, and Robin Wright in House of Cards.  Then I would go to my closet and choose pieces that made me feel that way.  Here’s a good formula to start:



Choosing a feeling will help you get clear, choosing a character will give you a visual reference to build the outfit.   I’d like to take a moment thank all the amazing costume designers for giving us wonderful tools to express our best selves!

I invite you to try this over the next week.  Have some fun! Go to the FabInjection Facebook Page and tell me what you came up with!  Click here to download the simple FabInjection Wardrobe ID Sheet.  If you need a place to start, here are 3 of my favorite ladies that always inspire me!


You are the main character in the movie of your life—you might as well look incredible.

Attend my workshop this Sunday!  It will be based on the Dress With Intent Module.  We will explore our intentions behind getting dressed, make some Wardrobe ID boards and get in depth with how to use your Wardrobe ID in your life!  I hope you can make it.

Sunday, March 2, 2014
Hampton Coffee Company Coffee Experience Store in Southampton, next to BMW of Southampton.
We will also be doing a live webcast, woohoo.

Hamptons Hipster: Nicole Miller goes Tribal for Fall 2014

NICOLE MILLER: MERCEDES-BENZ FASHION WEEK Fall 2014 COLLECTIONS… Nicole Miller is one of my favorite designers, there are many pieces in this 2014 Fall Collection that I like and there are some that confused me. I found the collection, edgy, feminine and sexy. The Tribal Theme was  dark and yet  intriguing, sexy and Fierce.

I loved that Nicole had so many separates in this collection that could be mix and matched. The styling and make-up went with the Tribal Theme,  dark, edgy and Fierce. I do wish she added some bold colors to the collection  because it was just a bit too dark for me. I personally do not care for Peacocks but I thought she did a beautiful job with those pieces.

Hamptons Hipster: Mercedes Benz Fashion Week Fall 2014…You will have the best seat at each Runway show, Hamptons Mouthpiece brings you Live-streaming video straight from the runway….Fashion Week 2014

It’s that time of the year again in New York City…The New York Mercedes Benz Fashion Week Fall 2014 Collection..It started February 6th and continues until February 13th and Hamptons Mouthpiece has been given permission to stream the live video of the show. So tune in everyday to see the new Fall 2014 fashions from all of your favorite Designers, like BCBGMAXAZRIA, Richard Chai, Rebecca Minkoff, Nicole Miller, Charlotte Ronson, Lacoste, Diane von Furstenberg, Carolina Herrera, Badgley Mischka, Vera Wang, Nanette Lepore, Michael Kors, Vivienne Tam, Anna Sui, and more. There were so many fall lines that I loved like Diane von Furstenberg, Tracy Reese, Carolina Herrera…I am looking forward to see what will be trending this Fall and if the designers will incorporate Patone’s Color of the Year “Radiant Orchid” into their fall line.


Hamptons Mouthpiece will be bringing you the best seat at each runway show…So come back each day to see the Fall 2014 LIVE VIDEO STREAM…..Here is the schedule for the week…If you have a favorite that you would like me to post…send me message…