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*The Silent Struggle: Fibroids, Cysts & Women’s Health

I’ve been blessed not to personally experience the pain of fibroids or ovarian cysts—but I’ve watched women I love suffer for years in silence. Friends, family, sisters in my community—carrying the weight of heavy bleeding, unbearable cramps, and the fear of not knowing what’s going on in their own bodies. They pushed through workdays, family obligations, and life, while privately battling pain that should have been taken seriously from the start.

For many women—especially Black women—this is not a rare story.

Fibroids are noncancerous growths in the uterus, but they can cause heavy periods, intense cramping, pelvic pressure, and even infertility. Black women are more likely to develop them, and they often show up earlier, grow larger, and cause more severe symptoms.

Ovarian cysts can quietly exist without symptoms—but when they cause pain, it’s not subtle. Bloating, sharp pelvic aches, and even hospital trips are part of the reality.

Dermoid cysts are a different type altogether—benign growths that come from undeveloped cells you’re born with. They can contain tissue like hair, skin, or teeth (yes, really) and often go unnoticed for years. Because their symptoms—pelvic pain, pressure, bloating—can mimic fibroids, they’re sometimes misdiagnosed. The only way to confirm their presence is through imaging, like a sonogram, which can lead to surgery if they’re large or causing complications.

And then there’s dysmenorrhea—painful periods—that so many women dismiss as “normal,” even when it’s a sign of something deeper.

The heartbreaking part? Too many suffer in silence because they’ve been told, directly or indirectly, that women’s pain is something to “tough out.” Add in the racial disparities in healthcare—where Black women’s symptoms are often dismissed or downplayed—and it’s a perfect storm for delayed diagnoses and unnecessary suffering.

Here’s what I’ve learned from the women who’ve shared their stories with me:

1. Listen to your body. Pain, heavy bleeding, bloating, and fatigue are not things you should just “get used to.”

2. Push for answers. If a doctor brushes you off, find another one. You deserve to be heard.

3. Break the silence. Talking about your experience can help another woman recognize she’s not alone.

Fibroids, cysts, and other reproductive health conditions are not just “women’s problems”—they’re human problems. They affect our families, our work, our emotional well-being. The more we share, the less anyone has to suffer alone.

Real talk, real people—your health matters. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

That Time a Summer Cold Took Me Out. Yes, in the middle of Rosé season.

One minute I’m living my best life, breezy sundress on, sipping something cold under the Sag Harbor sun. The next? I’m in bed, lights off, hoodie up, wrapped in a blanket like it’s January. Summer cold? Try summer KO’d.

I don’t know where this cold came from, but when I tell you it snatched my edges, I’m not exaggerating. It came in strong and fast, and before I knew it, I was dealing with:

  • Sneezing that wouldn’t quit
  • A dry, hacking cough that left my chest in knots
  • Body aches from head to toe
  • A stuffed-up nose that made breathing feel like a chore
  • Sleepless nights (because apparently coughing never clocks out)
  • And real, scary chest pain

This wasn’t some little sniffle. This cold had me down bad — and honestly, I kept thinking how dangerous this could be for someone with asthma or any type of heart or lung condition. If you’ve got underlying issues, something like this could land you in the ER.

So what did I do? I dragged myself over to Sag Harbor Pharmacy, because sometimes you just need that neighborhood spot where they know your name, actually care, and carry more than just the basics. They had everything I needed — cough drops, elderberry, tea, Tylenol, and even a little compassion. That place is a gem.

And listen — I tried to fight through it at first. Big mistake. Eventually, I had to cancel plans, shut the laptop, and just be sick. I hydrated, I slept (finally), and I let my body do what it needed to do.

Here’s what I learned (so you don’t have to):

  1. Don’t downplay it. A summer cold can feel just as brutal as the flu. If you’re coughing your lungs out, that’s not “just allergies.”
  2. Take your butt to bed. Rest is not a luxury; it’s a requirement.
  3. Support local. Sag Harbor Pharmacy came through for me — quick, easy, and personal.
  4. Listen to your body. If your chest hurts or you feel short of breath, don’t play. Call your doctor.
  5. Give yourself grace. You don’t have to push through everything. Summer colds don’t care about your calendar.

The truth? Being sick in the summer feels unfair. But your health doesn’t follow the seasons — it follows how well you take care of yourself.

Take it from me: Don’t ignore the signs. Don’t skip the pharmacy. Don’t feel bad for resting. You can’t pour from an empty cup, even if it’s full of iced tea and sunshine.

Real talk. Real people.

Hookah 101: What’s Actually Happening?

For the uninitiated, hookah (also called shisha, waterpipe, or narghile if you want to sound fancy) is a way of smoking flavored tobacco. The tobacco is heated with charcoal, the smoke bubbles through water, and you inhale it through a hose.

People often think, “Hey, the water cleans it! Science!”

Spoiler: It doesn’t. Not in any way that actually helps your lungs.

🚭 The Big Myth: The Water Makes It Safe

It’d be great if dunking smoke in water turned it into magical healthy air — but that’s not how physics works. The water cools the smoke so you can take bigger puffs — which just means you’re inhaling more smoke.

You’re still getting:

Nicotine: Addictive. (Surprise!)

Carbon monoxide: Same stuff that comes out of car exhausts.

Cancer-causing chemicals: Yes, they’re in there too.

📏 One Hookah Session = How Many Cigarettes?

Brace yourself: A typical hookah session can last an hour. In that time, you might take hundreds of puffs — the smoke volume can equal 20–50 cigarettes. So if you’d never chain-smoke a pack in an hour, you might want to rethink that hookah hose.

😷 More Than Just Smoke: The Other Nasty Surprises

1️⃣ Secondhand Smoke: Your friends next to you are breathing it too. The charcoal adds extra toxins. So everyone’s lungs are at the party — whether they like it or not.

2️⃣ Sharing Mouthpieces: Everyone’s germs are going on a field trip. Cold sores, flu, maybe worse. It’s like a group project — but with germs.

3️⃣ Long-Term Health: Regular hookah use is linked to lung cancer, heart disease, messed-up lungs — you name it. Just like cigarettes, but with fancy cushions and flavored clouds.

🪻But Mine Is Herbal!”

Nice try. Even herbal or “nicotine-free” shisha still gets heated with charcoal. That means carbon monoxide and other nasties are still along for the ride. So, water + fruit flavor + charcoal = still toxic. Sorry, strawberry-mango fans.

So… What Now?

Hey, I get it — hookah is social. It’s chill. It feels classy. But it’s not harmless. If you’re already thinking about cutting back or quitting, you’re ahead of the game.

Talk to your doc.

Find a quit-smoking app.

Pick up a new ritual that doesn’t involve inhaling burning stuff.

💬 Final Puff of Truth

Hookah isn’t some magical loophole where smoking becomes healthy. It’s cigarettes in disguise — with more cushions and fruit flavors.

Next time someone says, “It’s just hookah, it’s fine!” — hit them with the facts. Or better yet, share this article.

Stay smart, stay social — and keep your lungs out of the party.

What’s your hookah story? Love it? Hate it? Shocked? DM me your thoughts on my sociall media or email hamptonsmouthpiece@gmail.com — and tag a friend who needs to read this!

Ask Kurt, Home Care 101: How to cope with Sundowning

Ask Kurt: Is a new column by Professional Homecare expert Kurt Leggard, a registered Nurse Chief Clinical Officer -Director of Patient Services for a Licensed Home Care Services Agency in NYS. Each week Kurt will be answering your questions regarding Home Care.

Home care, is supportive care provided in the home. Teamed with physical alterations to the home such as having mobility wet rooms fitted, it’s a great way to allow your dependent relatives to stay in the comfort of their own home while still getting the help they need. Care may be provided by licensed healthcare professionals who provide medical care needs or by professional caregivers who provide daily care to help to ensure the activities of daily living(ADL’s) are met. Also, very similar to RIGHT ACCORD HOME HEALTH CARE, In-home medical care is often and more accurately referred to as “home health care” or formal care. If you’re looking for an elderly care facility, The Hermitage of Northern Virginia has very nice assisted living facilities in Alexandria VA.

This weeks question is from Stephanie in Sag Harbor, NY

Question: My question is this: What do you recommend to cope with “sundowning” , a condition of extreme irritability of older people between 5pm and 7pm…hard time for caregivers to handle.

ASK KURT:

Kurt: Thank you for the question Stephanie. As defined, ‘Sundowning’ is characterized as a spectrum of behaviors of individuals with a diagnosis of Instant Coupons! Alzheimer’s Disease or other dementias with the individual presenting as agitated, extremely confused and sometimes combative beginning toward the end of the afternoon to early evening sometimes extending through the entire night. Basically, when the sun goes down.

I tend to begin any recommendations with addressing ‘Sundowning’ as a condition that is very stressful for the caregiver as well as a potential safety risk for the sufferer. It is imperative that the caregiver takes care of their own health care and emotional needs and gets appropriate rest and respite to handle the rigors of caring for the individual suffering with ‘Sundowning.’ Please get support if you can. Companies can Immanuel can provide lakeside assisted living to help reduce the physical and emotional load.

The immediate things you can do for the sufferer is to ensure that a recent medical examination has been conducted to determine if there are any medical conditions that may be the underlying cause for the ‘Sundowning.’ If an individual is in pain, this may cause ‘Sundowning’ to start or become more pronounced as will severe constipation, Urinary Track Infections, poor nutrition, dehydration and many other conditions.

If the sufferer tends to wander (a possible secondary affect), it is very important to conduct a complete environmental review of the client’s home. Remove safety hazards (loose carpets or rugs, telephone or lamp wires, use night lights, etc) to prevent falls. If the client is at risk for wandering out of the home, safety door locks should be installed out of the reach of the client but easily accessible to the caregiver. Visible signs inside and outside of the door to identify where the lock is located can be helpful if there is a need for an emergency evacuation, as in the case of fire.

There is nothing more frightening than a love-one wandering outside and lost. Safety locks can prevent this. Do not lock a sufferer indoors without appropriate supervision. If a lock is needed, then there is a great chance that ongoing supervision is indicated (consider the many Homecare options available but be cautious to consider caregiver compatibility and costs).

The following are my recommended interventions: Maintain a routine for the sufferer. Stress will exacerbate ‘Sundowning’ and routines reduce stress. Maintain or increase the activity status of the sufferer during the day and avoid naps if possible. Naps can tend to disrupt the clients nighttime sleeping pattern. As the sun light in the sufferer’s home decreases through the afternoon to the evening, increase the amount of lighting used in the home. The use of lights will reduce one of the triggers of ‘Sundowning.’ Reduce foods that have caffeine and sugar during dinner and snacks. Keep snacks light prior to going to sleep. Ensure that the sufferer has had adequate hydration during the day (the elderly are prone toward dehydration) but reduce fluids at night to minimize nighttime urination (nocturia). Minimize disturbances during the night This seems pretty reasonable but is sometimes difficult to manage, depending on outside traffic, neighbors, etc.

I read in Healthline.com (http://www.healthline.com/ ) that each sufferer has triggers that lead to ‘Sundowning’ and they recommend keeping a journal, recording all triggers to be avoided. Great recommendation!

A final or perhaps initial intervention may be to medicate the sufferer based upon their symptoms and behaviors. Interestingly, some medications may themselves be the cause (trigger) for what appears to be ‘Sundowning’ but may actually be causing medically induced insomnia and confusion. Review all medications the sufferer is taking with their physician or nurse practitioner to determine if medication may be the cause of the problem.

Ultimately, this is a very difficult and challenging circumstance for caregivers to handle. It can be very exhausting and frustrating for everyone involved. A combination of the recommendations offered will hopefully provide some answers and work for you. Get plenty of rest and support if possible. (please review Web MD (http://www.webmd.com) and the Alzheimer’s Association ( http://www.alz.org/nyc/ ) for excellent information.

Each week I will be answering your Home Care Questions: Email your questions to HamptonsMouthpiece@gmail.com